Met a insincere new boyfren

last SG · 2005-05-30T21:43:56+00:00

yes sir, heee... but correction my sir ! i am not lowering my standard that why i did not allow myself to commit mistake in-regard to sex. I have my sets o...

subarugal SG

Sigh...

well me get to know a guy in the net.. somehow initially he show and express interested to know me. After chatting online for 4mths, we went on a date, after the date the guy express interest towards me. After knowing for 6mths dwn the rd i accepted him.
But recently i notice he change no longer so attentive to me.
And found out from net he is hunting to know more new gals.
Whether he got invite them to date i dnt noe.

Now my questions is shld i give him up ?
Or shld i confront him saying i noe his activites.. but these ways might spark off a arguements. althoug fren say its ok for him to befriend opposite sex. But if he purposely do so, i cnt accept that.

Shld i talk to him n listen to what he say ?
those gals in his network cnt be his colleg as he work in a all male working enviornment.

What is the best advice for this if u were me ? Confused Neutral

boyboy18 SG

as usual,like wad most ppl says,guys known from net are never gd partners.

pqr SG

the answer to this question will aid in your decision:

Is this net hunting for gals his habit?

rainee SG

Don't generalize please Laughing

Devil1976 SG

Really? Mr. Green Question

Devil1976 SG

You are.... Quite a conservative girl Question

InnoHippo SG

confront him lah .......

he might have his reasons which allow u to understand him better Wink

boyboy18 SG

dono leh,heard alot girls say like tis lo,r we guys reali tat bad? Rolling Eyes

pinkygal76 SG

I understand y u feel that way....my dear dear does that all the time as well....
goes on line to noe gals...in fact ever caught him flirting on line ......even got gals that he call "wife" on line ya!!! Almost went crazy initially....

but I guess its really a matter of trust.... most guys/ gals alike ...like to flirt on line...
dun have to take responsibility for watever they say.... the other party may never ever
see you in person anyway!!

Unlikely that he will change becoz of you!!! The only thing is that he will do it secretly
behind yr back if you confront him abt it.....

Trick: Be partners in crime Wink ....do the same thing to him!!!! Ouch!!! See if it
hurts him....harmless flirting on line is alright one!! Say only mah...no do...

If not...... leave him now if you find that you really cannot trust him!! Hurt now
better than hurt later ya!! Confused Now only early stage of relationship...will hurt lesser

Move onz Plenty of trees out there! .....Sure can find one steady and trustworthy guy out there !

gerrykoh SG

If u are going steady, then it is alright to question him.
Tell him it is alright to chat with friends once in a while but not to pick up girls.
If he is serious abt u, then he should spare a thought for your feelings.

subarugal SG

I afraid by talking 2 him will spark off a agruements..
coz he might get cross if he noe i am monitoring him, but y do guys take us gal like idiot thinking we will nt noe wat they are doing ?

i am tinking of letting him go..
anyway this r/l started nt long.. like ppl say to let go now when feeling isn't that strong den to suffer later..

some might feel i am unfair for nt letting him explain himself.
but i dnt see anything to explain flirting online is flirting..
if he can flirt online, sooner one of these day he will meet up with the gals.
if he came across a gal who is ok with meeting up.. sigh...

y am i so dwn in lucky with love..
lucky always miss me.. Sad Sad

fire & ice SG

actually, flirting alto harmless…but if it results in him giving u less attention and less love..then it’s no longer ok. better check it out. i don’t suggest “confrontation”...too strong and potentially explosive. just ask him in the right timing. be prepared to face the answer…..

Devil1976 SG

Not sure about you... But I'm a DEVIL... And I CAN be BAD... Twisted Evil

alexkusu SG

If he's hunting..he gave up on u ages ago. Get a subaru type C..at least it will be loyal n faithful Laughing

Devil1976 SG

Hmm... Cool

Apollo_sg SG

you seems to know the answers yourself but u just wanna some1 to push u off the cliff. fact is, it is ur life, live it the way u want it.

no r/s will survive without trust n sincerity. besides, ur level of r/s with him appears as thick as a comic book only. cheap lesson. some pple hv gone thru several years b4 realizing they hv been had, all alone.

kopiosatu SG

ask him join sgforum outings

browniebaobao SG

Find out his motive of hunting those girls. Is he fooling around or juz making frens? It depends on his intention. If he's making frens, well I can close on eye..but if he's fooling around, I'll break off with him.

pinkygal76 SG

YAP!!! I really think all guys expect their gals to be like idiot!! Act Sweet,
innocent and Pretend not to noe what "evil deeds" they are doing outside !!!

You go gal!! If you feel that this guy is not worth going thru all the emotional
trauma of a potential cheating partner ......go along and do whatever yr heart tells you to do !
Laughing For him to behave like that in the earlier part of the relationship does make one wonder
how serious he is abt you ya!

Verbal flirting is okie with me....in this modern society...almost everybody
does that...... even the old 40+ "uncles" in my office flirts or talks in a suggestive mannner
with the younger and prettier gals all the time.....
just verbal flirting or making platonic frenz with the opposite sex is acceptable....
the key thing is that your partner must noe where to draw the line....
however if I ever caught my partner sleeping around..
i will castrate him ...hehehe

Twisted Evil

mercurialz SG

i speak from a guy's point of view....

are you demanding too much time from him till he has no breathing space?? i cant quantify the amt, but u shld know better...

if ur answer is "no leh, i juz want the same amt of attention he showed me b4 we go stead", then run for your life... becoz itz only 6 mths and he cant give u his attention le... but then again, it will be good to listen to what he has to say first, ie, confront him b4 your make your next move... gd luck