Changes In Views Of Love

last SG · 2005-05-20T08:32:59+00:00

Dear c2on2, Not everybody has the same needs & wants in life. When you were in primary school & your teacher asked the class what they wanted to be...

browniebaobao SG

haha...how fortunate u are. Razz

FeowFeow SG

Harlow : )

It works both ways, I suppose. I wouldn't have been so fulfilled if my guy didn't feel the same way. It helps being the best of friends, & Not sweating the small stuff. We give each other space also... He's taught me alot : )

FeowFeow

FeowFeow SG

It's a growing process, I wasn't so fulfilled in 1 day, you know? We ironed things out along the way, understood when each other felt stressed out, & hence were snappy, that kinda thing.

It's Not all roses, FYI, we do argue once in awhile, but usually, 1 of us will give way simply because the matters are mostly trivial & Not worth arguing about. And our pact was Not to go to dreamland without kissing & making up : )

FeowFeow

FeowFeow SG

Thank you, MC : )

I wish you the same, that you'll find happiness & contentment : )

FeowFeow

FeowFeow SG

Thank you : ) Revelling in life's simple pleasures can be utterly romantic : )

FeowFeow

FeowFeow SG

Thank you : )

I'll try my best to make him smile always Very Happy

FeowFeow

FeowFeow SG

*gigglez* Yah, my colleagues keep telling me that, he makes them snacks once in awhile, then everybody keeps asking me for the recipes Razz Unfortunately, I dunno, I always concentrate on the yummy results Razz He said once, "No matter how I screw up our meal, you'll always gobble it up... I love you lots!" Smile

But even when he screws up his meals, they're much more delicious than my most carefully prepared ones Razz

FeowFeow

M©+square SG

I mean what your bf does sounds like me. Embarassed
I'm sure your bf is happy and wants to give you the best!

FeowFeow SG

Awwwwww, then your gf is a lucky girl, like me Very Happy

It's so nice to look forward to the end of the day, knowing that there's a hug & kiss waiting for you Smile

FeowFeow

Deportivo SG

fantastic feeling isn't it. the desire to love and to hold is reciprocated by your partner.

it is something that you only come across once, maybe twice, in one's life time. We read so much about the young people here pulling hairs of their head just to find practical measures just to please or rekindle the relationship with their gf/bf. what we learn from our age is all thing points to the maturity of the heart and mind.

just a rant.

FeowFeow SG

Hi Deportivo,

Yes, I agree to a great extent what you've mentioned below. I would also like to add that it's also up to the individual. Some young ones grow up still holding fast to the thoughts that they held during their youth, & tt's probably sad, because they continue doing the same things, repeating the same errors, maybe?

Love, to me at least, isn't about taking desperate measures: the "Oh, I didn't change when you nagged at me 50 times in 6 months, but now that you want to leave me, I'll change within a day!" kinda thing happens so often, especially when I read the posts with people going, "How do I get her back? I'm desperate!" etc...

From experience, I realise that those desperate measures don't last. If a guy/girl really wanted to improve, he/she wouldn't have waited till you gave up on the relationship to try. After awhile, they'll revert back to their old ways when they feel comfortable again.

Hence, I'm so appreciative of my guy, because he makes the effort, & it makes it so easy for me to reciprocate his attention, support & understanding. Sometimes we do try to change & improve, but when we fail, the other will always give a hug & say, "I love you anyway for trying. Please don't give up, baby", & it makes it easier to continue improving : )

*Disclaimer: Again, I need to stress that this relationship is NOT all roses. We DO argue. But we also treasure each other enough to work issues out.

FeowFeow

Boo777 SG

Hmm.... surprised I am tat there's life on this planet afterall. Yeap, like u said, one man's meat can be another man's poison.

Feow Feow, wish u a good luck, a good life, and a fairy tale-like ending, happily-ever-after.

Deportivo SG

yeah i figured all this out pretty young and my partner and i committed ourself eternal in matrimony when we were 23.

up till this day, we are still learning the ways of loving each other. we find something new everyday.

FeowFeow SG

Wow, you're lucky to have figured it out so young. I only figured it out later Razz Better late than never, yah?

It's so nice to grow together with your partner, learning something new everyday, etc. The feeling you get when seeing your partner smiling & delighted is unmatchable : )

FeowFeow

FeowFeow SG

Hi Boo,

Thank you : ) I wish you the same : )

I do note that what works for me doesn't work for another person. Basically, this thread is just about my musings, I tend to do that every so often, to think about what's in my life & appreciating the bliss of what I have.

Not everybody has the same wants, needs & expectations. Mine just changed as I grew older & learnt through my failures. It just so happens that what I thought I wanted, is No longer the case now : )

FeowFeow

Devil1976 SG

Cool

Devil1976 SG

Okay. Enough of just sunglasses for now.

I would also take to take this opportunity to thank Feow Feow for her time and efforts in AA, despite the fact that she's really already quite contented in her relationship. And her post of threads and topics in attempts to inspire and lift up the spirit of those who are more down and lost in here. Wink

FeowFeow SG

You're most welcome : )

It's just a sharing of experiences, & I also hope that others will figure out what it is that they want in a relationship. Of course, when all is said & done, it also depends on whether the other party reciprocates, appreciates, agrees & grows together with you.

Being contented doesn't mean that I can slack off, alas Wink It's all about keeping the other side happy, so that I also feel warm & fuzzy inside : )

FeowFeow

Devil1976 SG

Cool

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