Partner of different race and nationality

last SG · 2005-05-17T13:09:22+00:00

I'm not referring to u too...i referred to dragg... ppl are jus lame to think others are lame[/b]

Constance SG

But it seems like i dun have support from my friends. they keep telling me to know the guy long enuf before stepping into r/s. how long will that take?
why cant ppl jus love freely?

Constance SG

He works in spore and lives in jb. and he's a msian and indian. while i'm sporean and chinese...seems weird rite? i m also wondering why i love him.

Devil1976 SG

Originally posted by Constance:

[b]He works in spore and lives in jb. and he's a msian and indian. while i'm sporean and chinese...seems weird rite? i m also wondering why i love him. [/b]

Have you considered the possibility of just an infatuation? How old are the both of you?

Somehow I suspect sort of romance rushes through the head thing in this case? But often when you're asking a question like 'i m also wondering why i love him' and couldn't seems to find any appropriate answer to that, you should be aware of a possible 'alert amber' in the future of this relationship. Of course, it doesn't necessarily means that this relationship would turn out for the worse. It just means this relationship should have lots of areas of uncertainty.

Devil1976 SG

Of course people can just love freely.

Without knowing your partner well enough? Regardless of race or religion, whatsoever... Understand that there could be a consequence which you might have to answer for in the price of such a kind of relationship....

And remember... Distance can play a trick on the relationship... It could mean not being able to meet up as often as a 'normal' couple would... Can you tolerate that? And the 2nd question you should be asking after that... Can he tolerate that?

Cultural differences and possible pressure from peers, friends and family... Have you thought about things like that?

Sure. At this point you might be thinking that 'love can overcome all' kinda notion... But when the situations start to pour in, together with the uncertainty you're holding for this relationship itself, I would say you're just like giving yourself unneccesary troubles to tackle with... Think about it?

Aragorn73 SG

Hi all,
Very long didnt post liao. For those who are questioning about mixed races & nationalities, I think its ok lah. Im not supporting my statement just becoz I have a foreign gf, but Ive been thru this phase before & I believe if u strongly believe that this relationship can work, chances are, it will.

Just remember this : LOVE CONQUERS ALL
And this : ALWAYS REMEMBER WHY YOU TWO FELL IN LOVE IN THE FIRST PLACE

My gf is a Thai, still in Thai & I know its pretty difficult to bring her to Sg. So, im weighing my options to migrate there. Im 32 already & had my fair share of local gals. Not saying our local gals are bad in whatsoever ways, but other foreign chabors have much much more to offer in terms of what most guys would look for. The only drawback would be her education level (thus will affect our income level) & language (Im currently taking Thai now while she's taking English course)
Ive spoken to my parents about this & surprisingly theyre pretty supportive coz they have learnt to let go (Im matured enuff to plot my own chart of life) & I guess i need to start my own circle of trust (for those who has watched "Meet The Fockers" hahahaha)

Both of us have thought about the road ahead of us, and we felt even stronger to take our r/s to the next level. So if anyone has doubts about this particular topic, fret not. Our own gals are going for angmo, and I cant see why local guys cant go for foreign gals.

So, have fun. Enjoy the journey, not the destiny

Im the ONE

Young Stallion SG

Don't let anyone decide for you......you should decide for yourself, right or wrong.. it's you who made the decision. Learn from your mistakes and you'll be a better person in the future. If you really like him, then give the relationship a try..doesn't mean you have to marry him.

I'm a malay guy and once I fell for a malaysian chinese girl but to afraid to express my feelings. Life is strange....we always think that we could plan and control our future but things don't always turn out that way. I always imagined my dream girl to be my own race but when you met someone special, it's just happens. It's sad that people are not true to their feelings due to pressure from family and society.

Believe in yourself..you'll make the right choice. Anyway..all the best(^_^)b

Constance SG

Hi, thanks to all of ur advice...esp to aragorn73 and young stallion. our age diff is 6yrs..dunno if thats considered too old for me...but my man has a young character and likes to joke ard...and i've always wanted a bf of the same race but things dun usually turn out the way it shld be. thats why i've been wondering what exactly do i see in him...he's lowly educated, smoke, sometimes talk dirty...but i can see that he's a considerate and honest guy, who likes to help friends in need. anyway...hopefully my parents are open minded...and will accept him if i intro to them. but that will take abt a few yrs before we decide to settle down.

conclusion: it all depends on fate...

[email protected]_arms SG

Originally posted by Constance:
[b]What do ppl think abt partners of different race and nationality? will love eventually overwhelms the difference?

What do u guys think? Question [/b]

Not for you. THe fact that you already mention the word "DIFFERENCE" shows you are not colour blind, and love is. But relax, you are like hundreds of other normal people. You make people like me shine Wink thank you.

[email protected]_arms SG

THat is complete and utter BULLSHIT, spgs are a minority and forever will be. THe people here can't even muster enough courage to converse politely/properly/eye contact with westerners, yet alone bonk them with emotional connections? Please..

Such talk about more SPGS just puts more local men down, and for what?

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