Mr. Ding, I applaud you that you are eventually writing from
your heart. If you are earnest about repentance, please throw out
your pride. Pride is like a disease in a relationship. It slowly
kills whatever two parties have going for them. And that MCP
attitude too. It hurts a relationship.
Apologize to your wife. It's not that difficult whether man or not.
I am a mother of a teenage son and I apologize to my son. In this
day and age, I can't have that "because I am the mother"
attitude!!! I respect my son and treats him as an individual. I do
not "talk down" to him as he is my equal, and I, his friend. You
have to do the same for your wife.
Your willingness to seek professional counselling indicates you are
remorseful? Perhaps there is hope for reconciliation? You both came
from different upbringing to become as one. So, accommodate
differences, exchange beliefs, complement strength and weakness.
Through it all, work together, grow together.
The fact that you still remember your past with your wife is a good
start. Your history with her is something no one can take away and
it will always be a part of you. Treasure it. When we are old and
frail, we have but memories to savour upon. And you want to "write"
a good history book about yourself, right?
You are young, Mr. Ding, at 33. There are going to be more
temptations and distractions. If you do not have a sense of
commitment and responsibility, you may sway again. You have to
exercise self control. What others do, you have no control but what
you do, you have control. Also, learn something from this
experience. All is not lost if we learn something from our
mistakes.
Whether or not your wife can trust you again or how your "new" life
together is going to turn out will largely depend on your actions
and behaviour. Other than your MCP and old school (aiyah, you are
only 33) mentality, I think you are sensible. So, don't let
yourself down, don't let your wife down and don't let your daughter
down too. And your parents too.
Good luck, Mr. Ding. I hope your wife and you did meet up with the
counsellor and the session went well.
All the very best to a new future. Treasure and cherish it. You
wife sound like a lady with virtue. I hope I won't be seeing a new
thread by you that you have cheated again. Sounds pessismistic eh?
Sorry about that. We should stay positive. If you are sincere, I am
sure many of us will be proud of a "new leaf".
