Originally posted by coffeeortea:
the only way to not think of sex.. is to not think of sex.
Right. Let's try this test: Do NOT think of pink
elephants.
Now close your eyes and try not to think of pink elephants.
Any pink elephants flashing in your mind yet? No? Congratulations
you've attained nirvana. You probably saw Buddha on your way out.
Amitabha.
For most people, not thinking about something is especially
difficult when you're consciously making an effort in your mind.
Rather than confront it head-on, why not sidestep it instead by
distracting your mind with other thoughts?
And in doomz's case, a suggestion would be to focus on the
activities that he had usually done (eg. hobbies, pastimes) before
he tasted the forbidden fruit. Feel the urge coming? Go for a jog
or a cold shower, or do something that'd keep your mind away from
your other head. Sometimes that helps.
The only reason why guys think of sex whenever they see their
girlfriends is that in their eyes, the girlfriend is just a piece
of meat to satisfy their hunger for the flesh. Doomz, granted your
task is made all the more challenging due to your self-professed
stronger sex drive, it is still no excuse for you not to rise above
your baser instincts and love her for who she is (ie. soulmate),
rather than what she is (ie. meat).
Wait till you are both ready for the consequences and
responsibilities that come with sex before you get on with it
again. It'd be more enjoyable then.
