Practicalities in r/s?

countdracula SG

The dollar and sense mentioned by countdracula is practical but you're not hiring an accountant, nor are you considering marriage yet, so it's not entirely relevant. Anyway being friends first allows you to find out more about her values and priorities.

i'm not being defensive here, but unless you walk the walk, you've got no idea what's in store ahead of you.

before you let the sparks fly, speak to those in marriage. if you think money ranks lowly in a marriage, then you don't know half of it. true, you can't measure happiness by how much you have but you sure can measure how miserable by how much you do not have. look at the debt situation in singapore, many folks including graduates are maxing out their cards and it's not always for shopping or luxury goods.

the irony of life is such... you want kids but then you work late thru the night to get that career, but by the time you are at your death bed, you'll never hear anyone saying they wished they had spent more time at work...but then if you don't have double income, you'll find life is tough...

choco B SG

Hi countdracula

FYI, I am walking the walk.

I get your point about money being important in a marriage. No money = hard life, poor standard of living for family, etc. I don't refute that.

Neither did I claim that money ranks lowly in a marriage. What I meant was ramblingjoe was looking for a gf not a wife thus the situation isn't exactly the same. But I get that you're warning him of what may come.

So what are you recommending ramblingjoe do, find a girlfriend or wife purely based on her income potential, financial contribution, and attitude to work and family?

You know the irony is, if a girl found a husband that way, she'd be called "materialistic " .

What if feelings don't grow after being together? End up with a filthy rich couple who hate each other to the core? That's happiness?

I think a balance can be achieved. Personally the very seed of a relationship should be a liking for each other. After that, the practicalities come in, atittudes to money, career, priorities, etc.

I don't agreee that practicalities should come before spark. However that doesn't mean that practicalities should be neglected in preference of the spark.

Kenashi SG

money does not rank low, I agreed!!
if u don't have that much money, just try to spend less loh!!
most ppl who max out their cards are those who spent beyond their income or budget.
how many ppl have u seen that max out their cards becos of living expenses.
Life is not really that tough, it is just whether u are satisfied with what u have
What is the use of money if u don't enjoy yr life!!
U slogged yr life to earn so much money for what? to have a very hefty amt in yr bank account, to see what a comfortable life u can give yr family, to own a nice car? is that really what u want in life?
I come from a poor family, my father is the only breadwinner in the family but we still live happily though he doesn't earn much!!
I can't go on holiday like my friends does during holiday or vacation, I just live with it, the only thing that differ yr thinking n mine is the fact I know my needs n wants!
Razz

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