Even if she might get the custody of the child, the judge could
also grant you visits to your daughter. You know, absence makes the
heart grow fonder. Try visualizing yourself 10 years from now, do
you want your daughter living in a family full of quarrels (she'll
turn out to be rebellious, I tell ya) or do you want her to live
peacefully with both her parents vying for her affections
(Seperately, but she'll be thoroughly spoilt with no proper
guidance) ? Let's say you are both divorced and each now having new
spouses after a while. Do you not think your daughter will be
tramautized? Do you think you'll be spending more time with your
daughter or your new girlfriend? Or do you think her mother would
spend more time with her boyfriend or her own flesh and blood? What
makes you think that her stepdad/stepmum would accept her? If even
if so, do you think your daughter would not suffer from the
aftermath of the divorce? She'll be scarred for life, I tell you.
At least both you and your wife are parents to your daughter and
not some outsiders. And I believe your daughter is still young so
she might not know what's happening to both of you. Once the mental
scar is there, it's very difficult to remove.So either way, you've
got to solve asap and please stop playing the victim here. A
marriage is for two persons to work it out not one. Remember this
phrase? "It takes both hands to clap".
I understand your wife is feeling very insecure. I have this
feeling that your wife is only trying to 'sa jiao' that's why the
divorce has yet to be finalised. Maybe you've not been paying much
attention to your wife? Another thing is, seeking professional help
is also another great idea to revive your marriage. I advice you to
see a family therapist or something. They can help you create new
powerful anchors and bring both of you back to the first time you
fell in love with each other. They will do this continously for
each session until these great feelings came flodding back and both
you might successfully fall deeply in love again.
This is only just a small advice from me,take it or leave
it
