It's ironic to see so often, the thing with couple, about
keeping the issue about the relationship to themselves and praying
that things will change for the better. You probably learn the hard
truth - it usually never happen. People don't gain enlightenment
from nowhere, just like a cart will only move if you push it. I
don't mean force/pressure of any kind, what I meant is that
problems will be here to stay unless you took initiative to remove
them.
There is serious upheaval in the dynamic of the relationship, but
it's not too much about the fewer dates. Rather, you allowed a
serious breakdown of proper communication to take place within,
which gradually scape off parts of your love and render it
unworkable.
Communication: You save it for yourself. The Pisces empathy sinks
in and you feel that you don't want to burden her by demonstrating
your displease. Remember, it's NOT about stressing or whatsoever, I
am sure you are intelligent to realise that if this issue was
chronic, your relationship will not survive. Of course, good
communication is no trashing session - you will not turn it into
one unless tact words, style and tone is not employed.
Do you realise why she only said 'I am so sorry.' ?
She is helpless, knowing that she is ruining the relationship with
her own hands, yet she is not willing to sacrifice this dream of
hers. She tries her best to maintain in a way where the
relationship and her business continues (disregarding if it had
damages or not). It will not be mutual, for if both is at risk, the
business will take priority. There is no balance - it's a
choice.
quote:
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I sms her , "its over"
She reply "wat you mean ? are you leaving me?"
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Have you ever realise that she knows the relationship is running
into turmoil, but she may not have discover that it was actually
THAT bad?
Have you ever spoke to her about possible solution? Not merely just
having to mention about the problems in the relationship? Solution
as in how you both design and compromise ways to keep the
relationship intact without falling into depression and such? From
decision to a balance?
And if she still picked decision, you could have minimize your
hurts?
***
She has made her decision and yours too.
Learn to move on.
/me pat pat
Cheers
Thank you for your detailed analysis of my problem , and yes , alot
of truths in that sense u made out. Unfortunately letting go is
never easy , especially when i still love her and i know she still
loves me , and yet ironically, i know i do not want to go thru that
kind of ordeal again. Perhaps i will forgive her when she learn her
lesson but i will never forget.
I really want to share her burden and troubles , but how can i ,
when she refuse to talk to me or even open up . she really hid
herself very well this time ,the more she think she is in the wrong
, the more she thinks she doesnt deserve me , the more she will try
to get away from me.
I m always willing to compromise , and from day 1 i knew she's
going to give her work priority over me . I m not disappointed or
her becoz she couldnt make it for the trip .But becoz she totally
forgot abt her promises and forgot to inform me .There are so many
way she could have prevented this from happening , it will take 3
mins to call me to inform me , but it never cross her mind . And
yes , it has repeated happened more times then i could
remember.
Previously i would lie on the bed wondering where she would be at
night , when she doesnt reply or answer my phone. But i got used to
that..
But i can nver get used to someone breaking her own promises..over
n over again..
