True life story believe a not

last SG · 2004-11-27T07:42:23+00:00

Before u got steady with a guy, open your eyes big big first..

kiekie SG

I am a simple-minded woman with complicated love life.
The stories below are all real life encounters of mine. Juz wana let them off my chest. Hope to share stories with pple who r interested. Feel free to comment. I m neutral.

PART 1 THE FIRST MAN IN MY LIFE (SINCE 25 NOV 1995)

We had been together peacefully for 2yrs, for we NEVER quarrel or fight before. But human do change.

I am the sort who seldom check on or question my bf about his whereabouts or watsoever. Bcoz i m afraid tat he might find me a pain in the ass for bugging him. I always tot tat if he wants to tell me, he will tell me eventually.
ANd he's juz like me.

Things started to change when its around my O'level as i cud remember vividly. i was absent from my fav. subj history as we broke up a day b4 the exam. And i did very badly for my Os as I got 30 points!! REal LOUSY. On top of this, i repeated a yr while all my buddies were in poly.

Everything was too sudden. I cud not find him for almost a week.
I only managed to talk to him on a few nights when his mum reminded him to call me; as i left a msg to her. Sadly to say we only tok for less than 5minutes. U know y?? because he reached home after midnight and said he's very tired wants to sleep.

I was as hot as the ants on the hot pan!! I waited till the wee of nights thinking tat he wud call me, in the end dis is wat i heard from him. With all the bottled up feelings, I broke off with him for the first time in 2yrs! VOLCANO ERUPTED!!
He said" break, break la, u dun regret!" those words really shattered my heart, cuz i nv expext him to say them.

I noe it was wrong of me to initiate BREAK in the first place. But i nv expect tat he wud agree readily. In a fit of anger, i told him i will go over to his place to collect my belongings some other next day, and he says ok but he might not be at home. (U noe, girls often threaten guys in this way) Tat was NEar Dec 1997

The following day, my anger eased and i decided to call him to say sorry. when i called his room number, an unfamiliar voice picked up. In a short while, he answered the fone. I felt puzzled as in his family, his mum is the only woman! WHO IS SHE?????? Sad Sad Sad

I asked him who the girl was. Immediately he said tat was one of his brudder's gf. I was abt to buy his story when the voice in his background exclaimed" CB LA, WHY THE HELL DO U WANT TO KNOW WHO AM I?"

Upon hearing dis, i was very furious, i mean dis woman is so rude!! I didnt know wat to do. I slammed down the fone. To think back, i m so stUPid!!

A few days later, wif the accompany of one of my buddies, i went down to Jurong west to collect my stuffs. I lost hope of patching back wif him when i saw the photoframe of us on the wall was no longer there. =SAD= I was devastated. Crying or Very sad

His mum hugged me tightly and the tears i tried to hold back came rolling down my cheeks controllably. I asked if he got a new gf, his mum says she dunno. She apologised to me tat her son has let me down. I m so touched by her kind words. Thou i forgotten some.

I had nv tot tat he wud betrayed my trust and love for him. Bcoz he doesn't flirt around. Perhaps i was to young at tat time.. His dad was so furious to find out tat we had broken up and even swear to confront him on my behalf!

I told his dad"human makes mistakes, sometimes he's very mature but sometimes not". His dad agrees wif me.

My whole family learnt abt it and my mum called up his mum for a chat without informing me. I was so diu nian already.... Mad argghh

Luckily my family is very supportive and tats when i realised how much my mum loves me. Bcoz i m so busy wif my own things tat i neglected my family.

Who noes, he still calls me occasionally to tell me where he was. I was surprised as i tot it's all over between us and he dun ve to report to me his whereabouts. Nevertheless, I was elated to receive his calls and the hopes of getting back together relinquished in my heart. Laughing Very Happy

On his bdae, which falls on X'Mas eve, I called him to wished him HAPPY BDAE in the morning while i was at work as a sales promoter in town, waiting for my O'level results. To my surprised, Guess wat had happened??

At around evening time, He appeared before me!!!! I was totally dumbfounded and paisay.. I stood rooted to the ground for a few seconds. I cud not believe wat I saw.. am I dreaming?? I smiled to him and ask him how come he was here. He said, he came all the way down to see me. Naturally i felt he was so sweet. He told me tat actually he reached town at around 2pm but he wasn't familiar with town areas and had a hard time finding the place i was working in.

In my heart, i asked myself repeatedly what does this supposed to mean? is he trying to hint me someting? If he asked for a patch back, i wud definitely wagged my tail. I was over the ninth clouds. I think it was the best gift ever for my X'mas.

When i knocked off at 9.30pm tat X'mas eve, it was raining torrentially. I was
on my way to the Orchard MRT; I saw a very familiar back in front of me. I quickened my pace to check whether it was really him.

That was when all my hopes were diminished once again!! There he was walking in front of me holding the hand of another girl! I tried to catch up with him and wanted to confront him. But my voice held back. I felt tat I have no right to interfere who he was dating with; as i was no longer his gf. My throat was choking on the journey home and my eyes were red.

Ever since he nv called me. Can anyone Tell me wat is he trying to tell me???? he already has a gf then wat for he come down all the way from Jurong west to see me?? Am i an idiot in thinking tat he still loves me??

Camellias4me SG

Dun take it so hard gal.. u have to let go of ur feelings for him.
Cannot b together still can be frens ma..? Nothing wrong for looking an old fren up & finding out how u'r getting on. Unless u'r not into keeping in contact wif Exss... Rolling Eyes

stormax SG

Just let go n move on.

I guess it's in 1997... so many years now.
Ask him if you want, guessing will only make yourself suffer.
Plus... guess he might just want to end this chapter of relationship.

It's really time to move on!! Wink

no_speeding SG

Move on dude...

Whats the pt of holding urself out for someone who is already gone..
Its not worth it....
Besides, life is too good to be wasted on all these hoping and waiting stuff... Shocked

Danisdead101times SG

well girl,since he doesn't belongs to you anymore and i think that you shouldn't hang on to this r/s anymore also...there always will be someone else better out there...

and hopefully you can move on and lead a wonderful life... Wink

^Sankawa^ SG

Lots of ppl experienced this. It's always complicated in love. When you like someone, he/she don't like you. When he/she likes you, you never get the feeling...

Since it's ended, move on like others do. Love is all around. You have friends & family who are supporting you.

Warmest Regards

SunRisE SG

girl.. don't take it too hard.. Even he's not there to care and showered his love to you anymore.. look around you.. there are many ppl put there who cares.. Like your parents.. i'm glad that your family is rather supportive.. cos at that point of time.. you are still young.. your parents din even reprimand you about your Os.. even though you did badly..

Whether he is there to hint you.. or purposely to let you see him with anohter girl.. it's all over.. your first love is always painful.. don't think about patching up anot.. Move on.. and lead a better life than him..

-pat pat- Wink

Devil1976 SG

Cool ....

MunnaBhai_MBBS SG

Is there a part 2 coming along?.Bring it fast cos i am very interested....

Anyway your story is what happens in everyone's life....many every tom dick and harry u see on the street have their own sad tales to tell.....Dont feel bad about it...BTw since 1995...u could remember ...u hav quite good memory..I was in sec 2 then...

kiekie SG

wah kao i type so long forget to copy first, have to retype again!! cuz my login expired!! Crying or Very sad

MunnaBhai_MBBS SG

Wait till u hear my story...Its like Bollywood Melodrama!! Laughing

kiekie SG

Part 2: 2nd BF whom I hated MOST!!
I got to noe him thru my classmate in a arcade. His family background was real jialat sighz Hes the youngest and only son in his family with 3 elder sis all married. His dad was an odd job labourer while his mum worked as a mummy.

I was waiting for my Olevel results then, so I worked as a sales promoter. Tat was my 1st job! Haha, I wana earn $$ so I dun have to ask my parents for $$, cuz my family belongs to the ave income zone. I remembered during CNY in 1998, he bought my parents a hamper, which left a very good impression of him(for my parents)

Thou hes poor, he wear branded stuffs and likes to play billard, sing ktv, watch movies etc like any other human, which I felt hes doing tat to show pple tat hes a rich kid. Everyone says his bike brings him bad luck as hes very suay he always got into accidents and there was once his whole bike was dissembled, left the skeleton. So all my hard earned $$ contributed in. I can say tat I paid for almost everything. Nearly BROKE!! Everyday eats bread.

There was once his bike skidded and he told me he was alright. Later I found out tat he had injured his didi, but yet he still dun dare to bring it up to me. I confronted him, he said he tot it was juz a slight injury. I forced him to see a doctor and he was hospitalized. Cuz the doctor said he muz remove the foreskin(circumcized).

I visited him everyday and bought food for him and his dad. Cuz nobody cooks at home. At age 17, I took up the responsibility of taking care of him, his dad and mum..Hard life.

His huse is like a GUI WU. Cuz no body bother to clean up, so many spider webs and dusty. On the window panes oso have a lot of beige colour things very hard one; duno wats tat. Tink should be the warps nest. His dads eyesight got problem and was half blind. His mum worst.. came home at 4am, wakes up at 4pm. She drinks and smokes and was as skinny as a skeleton.

His sisters onli visits them on Sunday cuz they ve their own family to tend. I hated his 2nd sis to bits.. let me tell u y

SHES AN ARSHOLE
On my ex 21st bdae, shes a loud speaker la. She came to his huse and joyfully walked into his small dark room to boast tat she had specially designed a bdae cake for my ex. So feeling curious and excited, both of us went to the living room to take a look at her SPECIAL design I nearly fainted upon the scene. U know wat?? I dun tink any1 wud ever want to ve the kind of bdae cake. If its me I rather not celebrate On the table, there was a tiger beer olive colour rectangular tray(which was used for putting glasses and others) in the tray , there were 21 small cakes arranged very neatly. Thos cakes were dos $0.50 type tat we used to eat when we were kids.. the cheapo type leh!! WTH man.. somemore, she even boasted tat she oso got buy fishballs. Wat a celebration, 1st time see before.

continued...

kiekie SG

Thanks all for ur advices.. i m very thankful to find this forum. It helps to ease my pains. U can scold me or watever, really i dun mind, cuz itd all out of good concern, thanks again.

applesweetgirl SG

wow.
your stories are really very interesting. i think his sister quite cute leh. hahaa!
really want to know what will happen next! ^^

kiekie SG

Continued part 2, Why I hated his 2nd sis:

When her darling daughters bdae was approachin, she kept reminding me the date and kept pestering on wat I wud get for her. She oso told me not to but dis not to buy tat, cuz her daughter already has them. I mean where got pple like here so thick skin one? Initially I tot she juz joking, who noes shes not!! She even got the cheek to tell me tat her bdae oso coming!! WTH man!!

I was as sore as a bear and told my ex tat since his sis so greedy, I might as well get her a bucket of rice for her bdae!! If u understand hokkein u shld now wat I mean.. We laughed till we got stomach cramp

One Sunday as usual the BIG mouth nonsense(BMN) came to his huse. I was staying wif him to look after him mah. Out of the blue, the BMN blurred out to him tat he still haven return her $150. I was puzzled cos y he borrowed $ from her. After much persuasion, he confessed to me tat actuali he borrowed the $150 to buy a hamper for my parents during CNY. I was so furious, I mean I nv ask u to buy anything wat, since u no $ y still waste $$?? So pretencious. I hate the kind of man, no backbones! He tot I will praised him or wat!!

Oh forget to mention tat time his didi was as swollen as the size of a mango loh, even my parents went all the way down to his 2room HDB flat in Redhill to visit him. See how he buys my parents heart? They are so good to him. When I related the special bdae cake incident to my mum, she even tried to help his 2nd sis by saying maybe they r too poor to buy a proper cake. But its not true loh, they lived in a 5 room flat, got car, why dun ve $$?? They r niao ji la. Too materialistic! My mum says nvm la. Instead she asked me to accompany her to the goldsmith shop. She chose a 24k gold dragon design pager clip costing ard $200+ n bought it for him!! WAH kao so generous. And my dad paisay cuz my mum buy, he nv buy and my mum dun wana share wif him. Weird rite? So my dad got him a Key design pendant ard $80+ and we bought him a durian cake. There goes the smiles on his face. To think back they realy treated him too good. Hard to find in laws tat r so good to u. I mean my parents are really gong gong keke.

There was once I had a class gathering at taka wif my sec mates. He told me he's going to catch a movie wif his kakis and play billard after tat. I say ok, cuz I felt tat since I canot accompany him, I should let him go out wif his frenz mah. I was very happy bcoz finally I can used the $80 tat I saved up to do some shoppin with the gals. Cuz I long time nv shop. & he was so sweet to sent me to taka.

But instead of heading straight to taka, he parked his bike at Cineleisure, saying tat his frens asked him to buy the tickets first. I innocently waited for him. Then he turned to me and said tat he didnt bring enuff $, and the total cost for the movie tickets was $49, for 7heads. I pass a $50 note to him grumpily. Inside my heart I was sizzling hot, feeling like a complete stupid fool, my shopping intention was.. he says his fren will return him the $, but I nv see it. ( used to his tales)

His eldest sis is the most ke lian. She has 3 young kids and a baby girl then. Her husband was always on the run for fear tat loan sharks wud come after him. They even borrowed $ from the loan shark to pay for the medical expenses for the birth of their baby girl. The father of the 4 kids is a gambler, tats y he had to borrow $ from another LS to pay off his previous debts. Its never ending. Their power supply was cut, can u imagine their life is so hard?

kiekie SG

Tat was when I backed out from this 9mth+ r/s.
He called me on the fone, begging me to lend him $5k. Where the hell I got so much $ to lend him?? My mum says if its $500, she wud not mind, $5k is a huge sum. I told him I dun have tat much $$, u noe wat he tried to psycho me?? !!!!!!!!! HES A BASSSSTARD!
He told me to ask my dad to to get a loan from his company to help him. I was a real gong gong, immediately I called my dad and he gave me a tongue lashing. Being a Male Chauvinist(duno how to spell) he said tat he will nv do it lor, as it wud ruin his reputation in his company. So I told my ex my dad cud not help him. GUESS WAT?? He got the nerves to tell me tat my dad cud get a loan from the bank to help him!!! I was really pissed off, thou I know hes trying to find $ to repay the Loan shark for his eldest sis. I told him straight tat its the end. Hes really too much,dun u think so?? He tot that my family print Singapore currency arh??
Go AND EAT SHIT MAN, yue xiang yue qi!!

I tried all ways to avoid him, his callseverything. Even after school, cuz I got my O level results, a 30 points man!! Bloody.. fearing tat he might wait for me at my sch back gate which I always used, I took a taxi from the front gate hme everyday. And I tot tat I m free from his pesters!! Hahahaha. Who knows, he waited at my doorstep!! Fu*king hell man!! I was like huh..omg.

I was a bit scared when I saw him at my doorstep duno wat he wud do to me. But I still pretend to be like very arrogant. I asked him y he was here, and he says y dun I invite him into my hse. So in my heart I told myself, theres nothing to fear of, I let him in, I sta infront of the computer and started playing games. He juz sat veside me quietly. When I turned to take a glance at him, I realized he was crying.. I asked him cry for wat? He asked me to give him another chance. I am a very xin ruan person, but I dun want to go back to the same old days again so I told him hao ma bu chi hui tou cao. Being a glib tongue he replied hao cao bu pa hui tou chi. I was realy dumbfounded. He tried to hug me from the back. I stand up and told him to leave. He refused, I tried to persuade him to give me a few days to decide and he better leave me alone! He agreed and left. I heaved a sigh of relief. Tats the only way to make him feel better so tat he wud leave.

The rest I forgot, sory.. onli remember tat 2 yrs back, I saw him at BQ with a lady. The very next day, he called my hse and ask me out for a chat. Hahaha he buay tahan me. Know y? this the scenario:
He: when r u free, come out for a chat leh?
Me: I m not interested la, too busy.
He: come out makan lah!
Me: I not hungry lah.
He: then come out for a drink lor? Can anot? Dun like tat lah.
Me: Aiyah, I oso not thirsty leh, u go find the girl whose wif u at the pub lor, I busy now, tok to u again.
He: the girl? Which girl?
Me: the one u hold hands wif loh, dun pretend la.
He: wat girl, shes my wife leh, u know?
Me: oh u r married aridy arh? Congrats
He: u dun believe arh, I even got a daughter liao
I was thinking: wah his didi still functional arhh, not bad lah, afterall he not so suay.
Me: issit? Your girl Cute anot?
He: u say leh, look exactly like me, like Photostat one. Juz imagine me with long hair.
Me: huh, like tat jialat leh..
He: wat? Look like me canot meh?
Me: nola, I mean look like ur wife better mah, at least her eyes big big, ur eyes so small!

He real;y buay tahan me! HAHAHHAHAHA so shiok.. since then he nv call me. Wat a BASTARD, he even told me hes actually calling from his in laws hse. This kind of guy better eat shit, got wife still call other girls! I felt lucky tat I had left him for good!!

Part 3 coming: 3rd BF

bigsweep SG

and then..........me waiting for the next esp. Smile

_Aaron_ SG

Wow.

What can i say?

At least you wasn't able to lend him the 5k. Glad you woke up before that. Else things may be much worse..

Ayla SG

*Applause*

Very interesting!!!

Somemore???

eveline SG

You are a cute girl. Razz