I gave her pressure

december SG

I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?

An Eternal Now SG

pee in her butt

red_tide24 SG

move on….

Sagara SG

move on... she already meant u bugging her..

sry if i was too direct Confused

101wish SG

if ur ex doesn't wan to patch up, i tink nothg u can do abt it..come on, surely there r other gals out there for u Laughing

JiAnReN SG

since she already said that… then i think you should leave…. cos if a ger can say that they really mean it… But if you really love her then no matter wat we say also no use… i know it’s painful to let someone you love to go… but somethings things are just not right… ask yourself this question… is this girl the girl you want to be forever… once you got your answer… you will know wat to do… Anyway all the best to you…. Even you can’t get her… one day the “one” you love will come out…. dun rush…

C-100 SG

Ask urself, wat have u done to leave her in e 1st place?

Kennerve SG

How often have you persuaded her to go back to you? Does she show any signs that she likes or wants you to go back to her? What causes the breakup back than?? Will she be afraid that you will do all these back to her?? These are some questions that maybe running through her head..

A patch up in most cases, will never be the same.. "A crack in the mirror.. No matter how much you do to it to cover the crack, the crack will still be there.." From what u mention in ur post.. Its pressure and she did not 100% reject you.. You can choose to:

1) Stop pressuring her and let nature takes it course... if fate brings u 2 back, you will be back.. or;
2) Give up on her and get on with life.. And don repeat the same things with ur next gf..

Good Luck Wink

december SG

I think the main problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again. I know my mistakes and i know what i should do. I neglected her alot becos of my army obligation. But now i have ORD i am ready to commit. But she just say the feeling will never be the same again even if we get together. Anyway she is a very insecured ger.
I believe that when she says she is facing alot of pressure.
Could it be she want to patch back but she having mixed feeling cos she scare we will not be be the same again. She has no confidence

Xcert SG

she made it clear that she is not interested in patching.
Stay away from her and move on.

Devil1976 SG

Hmm... Is this the same girl you're talking about... Or is it a different one...? http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=96554 Cool

BrUtUs SG

yes its weird, jz wait n STOP pressuring her or else its reali the end... hv patience...

the.raven SG

IQ of genius : 180
IQ of average person: 110
IQ of stupid person: less than 100
IQ of An Eternal Now: 5

pie SG

Laughing

december SG

ya.. its weird as in ?

december SG

When she said she doesnt have any confidence
She means she doesnt have any confidence that when we together, that type of feeling will go away. After so many bad experience in relationship, she didnt want to try. She has no confidence to try. When i tried telling her that i will make the efforts and i have the confidence that that so called feeling will go away and we will be happy in the end. She got so pressured by the things that i said she cried and insisted on me not to mention any patchup then. She cannot handle my constant persuasion.

december SG

Kennerve SG

You may feel that you are ready to commit into another r/s.. You have realised your mistakes etc.. But question is.. Is she ready.. You mentioned that she has mixed feelings and that she cannot decide whats best for her.. Is neglection the main cause of the break up or is it also due to other factors which leads up to it?

Relieve her of her pressure for the time being.. See how she is towards you.. If somehow, along the way, she has the feelings back for you.. I believe.. Both of you will be back together.. Relieve her pressure not till the extend of not talking or smsing her.. There are many things to talk abt other than relationship.. Let her feel comfortable back with you first.. Wink

usck SG

pressure = F/A
where F is in newton
A is in m^2

or in bar where u need to Xbar * 10^5
and u get N/m^2

thank u

ahkico SG

Mayb u should give each other more time n space before decidin to be back tog again? Absence makes the heart grow fonder... Who knows, mayb the time apart makes u realise tat u both were made for each other... luck!
Wink