I think in general, this social problem is rather prevalent in
developed countries where, when women have high pay and somewhat
more financially independent, they can afford not to be married and
women mostly, really mostly, marry upwards.
I think it starts from seeing how women are attracted to a man
which is the fundamental basic - Money. Now I know most guys would
roll their eyes and think that women are gold diggers. Yeah there
are some bad sheep which purely marry for money but women being as
they are, have written into their DNA structure to look for a mate
which can provide her offspring with the best environment, and
seriously if a guy has no money and love only, it's not possible.
It's still ok if a guy has no money BUT has the potential to make
money like possessing a professional degree, having a business
which might strike rich.
I believe there's nothing wrong with such a view, let's be
practical. U need money to survive, not just 'i love u i love u.' I
think using the term 'money' has negative connotations, how about
financial security? Men must be able to provide adequate financial
security according to the requirements of the woman of interest. I
think financial security is a pre-requisite but the foundation of
any marriage/relationship is chemistry and love.
So in Singapore with increasing literacy rates and women mostly
mostly marrying upwards, we have a problem for the men who have
lower earning power. Young that time, can still fool around n love
here lover there for fun fun. But when it gets down to the crux of
committing to a marriage, I believe women will wisen up and still
demand their required level of financial security. And since they
are financially independent, they dun see the need to marry if
needed.
I think SG girls like girls anywhere hope to settle down and have a
nice family for most of them, just that they now can demand more
and have higher requirements. It was not so in the past for the
previous generations of our parents. Money n marriage issues are
always touchy and a hot topic for debate.
But then again, I would say our own SG girls though financially
independent and smart and pretty, there's just this thing about
them which I'm not attracted mostly. I think it's partly cause of
the doting of parents and easier life. Eg, we men have to serve NS
and NS changes our perspectives of things, makes us appreciate the
smaller things in life like freedom, friends, family etc. It's like
we are made to taste how hot chilli taste like and now knowing
that, we guys appreciate all the more that 'cold glass of water'.
But women just don't have that kind of rewarding experience of
going thru NS. It's tough but we guys gotta admit, most of us
change for the better.
Foreign girls from our neighbouring countries, mostly are from a
harsher background and have to work harder not only academically
but also socially to prove themselves and for their families. I
find all of the foreign girls I know in uni, who come from harsher
backgrounds are more matured and well-mannered. They are beautiful,
very very smart, independent but sweet, soft, loving and having
those wifey qualities which are just attractive.
What do you guys think?
