should i give it to him?

deathscythe99 SG

Hmmm, I guess if he really insists against ur wishes, you should state it plain to him that you aint ready, and you definitely HAVE to have a stand....I mean, if you aint ready, it is tantamount to rape since he is doing it on an unwilling party....yeap. If he refuses to accept your decision, then I guess it's meaningless to continue...right?

Anyway, enjoy the hols Smile

fudgester SG

Girl, I think you deserve better than this poor excuse for a boyfriend. He has no right whatsoever to demand sex from you. And threatening to break up with you just because you won't give it to him? What on earth....

Then in that case he's not after love. He's after lust. Love and lust are two different things altogether.

Well, yeah, when I was in the army my bunkmates would regal tales about having sex with girls. Well, I couldn't care less about their stories. I'm still a virgin, and I don't even have a girlfriend. If he's suffering from all those stories of his army mates having sex then I should be dead by now.

He's not after your heart, girl. He's after your body. You deserve better.

cold-turkey SG

I think he is just like a rapist but will ask permission to have sex with you. After that, he will just go away. If he truly loves you, he should put your self-respect in the top priority. And not his fantasies.

LazerLordz SG

You guy most probably is just after you and cannot control his libido.A guy that truly loves you would put your needs before his own if they clash.One point, it is not easy to be a guy in today's world but if you love a girl enough, you will respect her wishes.Really hope you can be strong and tell him firmly.

nOrmalbOi SG

Perhaps U can try to convince urself to give it to him.

But first u must consider if u would be hapi doing it.

And if u can convince urself that u r "hapi" giving ur first time to him, u can be sure of something. U can start counting down to the next time he is gonna ask for it. U can start counting down to the day he is gonna get tired of u.

Since u prolly r gonna lose him anyway (and losing this prick is no loss i say), why not keep ur integrity while doing it.

Think about it.

Smile

fymk SG

If he says the words "show me u love me by having sex" , you tell him that if he truly loves you and respects you , he will wait til marriage (or whenever). If he breaks up with you over this, it is not your fault at all - it is just his fault that he can't keep his pants on.

I also think it is best to wait til a person is married to have sex. Marriage is a secure system whereby two persons have to combine resources to support each other. Sex, as you know, can lead to unexpected nine months of a gestational "problem" . At least if you are married , any unexpected "problem" could be at least respectable and supported by a person you truly love.

I am not being religious here but advising caution Smile

pete98 SG

'JUST SAY NO' He sounds like those type of guys who likes to control gf through emotional blackmail. Personally I would advise you to ditch the loser cos you deserve someone better. If hes so desperate ask him to go GL and give him the money for a pack of condom. You are still so young so don't make the mistake of doing this for a jerk. Save it for your husband. And don't even think of going on a oversea trip alone with him. God knows what might happens since he sound like someone who allows his little head to think for him. Evil or Very Mad Drat reading about this kind of creature really <> piss me up.

neuros SG

dump him

TaeWoon SG

omg... frankly as a guy's stand.. i think he is the same as me.. only my needs my needs my needs..
ehhhh... i tell u something if a guy really loves his gf.. he wont anyhow bonk her one.. i mean not to the sense he really wants to marry u.. but in this case... only wan to satisfy needs.. dun be silly lah.. if he goes liao after lay u down... u will have nothing liao except painful memories.. might as well keep ursf for ur real hubby...

verloren SG

You as a female, should only give him sex because you feel that it will make both of you closer together in the relationship, NOT because he's begging you for it.

If he insists on the issue of sex, break up with him. Isn't it obvious that all he thinks of is SEX and not YOU? It may sound selfish, but remember that females are always on the losing end when it comes to sex.

If you are unsure of his feelings for you, don't give it to him. A man who will break up with you because you don't give him sex isn't worthy of your feelings.

shaunlaw SG

I think u shld stick to wat u feel comfortable. Ur bf shld respect u. I feel that the fact that ur bf wanted to break with u bcos u din have sex with him is really ridiculous. Does he love u at all? If he does, he shld respect ur decision at all and shld love u deep enough to noe how u feel and what u want. His reactions questions his love for u. So wat even if hes in ns? There are alot of guys in ns who stil din do with their gf or some other girls.

Is he interested in love or in sex with u? Not giving him the benefit of the doubt, I will say if u go with him to the trip, 100% u will return not a virgin. I believe thats not what u want now based on what u say. IF u are not ready, he shld wait until u are and respect ur decision till then.

This issue is about how he shld respect u. DUn have to think too much abt it. Dun feel comfortable, just dun give to him. If he wants to break, just goes to show hes not serious abt a relationship. Respect urself, protect urself and be urself. I will want to give him a slap based on the fact he wanted to break with u based on such a reason.

shutthehellup SG

a general rule, if u feel the slightest bit of unwillingness, DON'T.

vito_corleone SG

if he's got cash to spare there's always orchard towers, if not, there's always geylang for desperate men on a budget.

mancha SG

You are in a dammed if you do, dammed if you don't situation.
But once he dapat, he'll consider you cheap.
If you don't want, then say "No".
If he can't tahan, thats his problem.
Think! do you want to receive his genes, DNA, seminal fluid, sperm.
Every abortion is followed for years after by a thought that the child would be of this age if not aborted.
"No" is a good answer.

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