hi icy.. sorry if u notice that i highlighted your frequent use of 'I feel' in your
post. Having dabbled a little in psycholinguistics for a while, i
believe what one writes reveal much about oneself..
here's my 1-cent worth yeah.. try not to think with your
feelings, think with your mind instead. don't clutter your
resolution (which i believe u already have in your mind) with
emotions. in other words, when u r trying to resolve any issue /
make any plan or decision, be sure to calm down first before you
re-evaluate your plans or situations and set goals.
try not to judge the circumstances you are in by your
feelings. like what some say, feelings come and go.
feelings are bio-social-psychological expressions of our
responses towards the circumstances we are in. these emotional expressions or responses (or
feelings) do not frame / represent / decide / describe your
abilities nor your personality. in other words, u
may feel inferior, stupid or plain dumb, but these feelings say
nothing much about your capabilities and potential as well as your
personality.
these negative feelings
you are having do not have the last word on you, on your work, your
future or even your r/s with the guy. unless, you allow these feelings to
rule over your life.
be sure to vent your feelings somehere through some means. after u
have done that, do not allow feelings to stumble you as you make
resolutions.
you are who you think and believe you are. you are not what
you feel. so, release yourself from those negative
emotions and turn obstacles into motivation, failures into
successes.
be rational.
best wishes hoh.. 
