I got a problem

Prince of Kao Peh SG

Very tulanz with my friends

I put in effort in my studies, and some of the modules I got learn before in JC or secondary, thats why can score well.

Then when everyone wants to know how to do the problems or have difficulty understanding the subjects, they come to me and say "hello brother...!" and so on..and happily pass or score well for exams... Everytime my HP is full of messages for "Want to come study together?" or "Hey, tomorrow project meeting"

But outings or activities that time, all disappear in a flash..worse, everyone go outings during holidays I didnt even know...at least some people know but cant go...and I was left in the dark.

You see, its damn paiseh to ask them "Can I go outing?" and I am quite an introvert, so some activities I dont really enjoy. Its like begging them to even asking me to go outing.

I dont mind not going, but very tulan they treat me like some sort of "Shen". Come to me in times of troubles, pai pai pi ku run away when no need me liao..

I wont be so bothered if I am not even within their circle, meaning no communication at all, but damn tulanz when I am treated like this..

Kao Peh Lar!

ditzy SG

You see ar, in life ar, sometimes ar, its best to play stupid. Very Happy

Prince of Kao Peh SG

yah, sha ren you sha fu..

but certain things cannot hide..like my test results..

Kao Peh Lar!

ditzy SG

You cannot fake results, but you can fake your personality. Very Happy

"That so and so so blur one, dun want lar, dun ask so and so to help lar."

Parka SG

Personality is hard to fake too.

Prince of Kao Peh SG

Now too late, just want to escape from these friends.

Damn pek chek.

Kao Peh Lar!

dead_clone SG

act blur, live longer…

the.raven SG

next time when they ask for help tell them all the wrong answers and then they will go away.

ditzy SG

Start off with slight selective memory. Very Happy

"Huh? I don't remember leh? Got this work meh?"
"I dunno wor, I copy so and so one."

Prince of Kao Peh SG

At times I want to burst out at them

One time I sat around minding my own business, and they gossip, using nicknames they use to give to one another, even for those not present

Then they talked about something, and turn around asking me for my opinions. I wasnt even listening, and they said I must have heard something form the conversation and insist I comment.

I was like thinking "Hullo, I am not even within your social circle, gan ma ask me questions like this, and I dont even noe who the hell those nicks refers to."

Kao Peh Lar.

Devil1976 SG

If you really don't like, you can don't help...

You DO have a CHOICE Question

Devil1976 SG

Laughing

Kennerve SG

Do you have a choice? die die u also need to stick thru them for the rest of ur years in ur JC/Uni.. Is like that one. Why is it that there is always a saying.. True frens are hard to come by? Its because of such pple out there who are like that, thats why this phrase come in..

You may have you part to play when it comes to them asking you out.. They may have asked you out before but like you say, there are things which you don really enjoy when you are out with them, so they won ask u along again.. Don take these things so seriously.. U are kinda sensitive over it.. They may mean no harm.. What makes you think the others who did not go all noe abt it?

Cheer up dude,

Prince of Kao Peh SG

If its so easy..one wrong step and I will be ostracised for being selfish and unhelpful. And I will be stuck with them for some time.

I dont mind helping, just dont treat me like rubbish after exams over can liao.

The problem is not to beg to go outing, like I am desperate, but looking at this thing as a whole, its damn jialat being dumped after exams, like my value drop after exams.

And not just solely outings, even for chats and stuff too...

How can I be called a sensitive guy when this is done 'in your face'?

gerrykoh SG

I guess u are feeling that u have been taken advantage of.
Some people are selfish & not willing to share esp in JC/ U cos very competitive. U have to learn who are your true frens. Help only those who deserves it.
Widen yr circle & make more frens. U have to be more extrovert & pro-active.

weidev SG

dun join their outings la... come sgforums's outings... this week alone gt at least 2 liao... Mr. Green

Sliderwkw SG

I got lots of such friends, that comes and goes. when you are in trouble they disappear. When they need to make use of you, they will come flocking to you, they wouldn’t ask you out for outings either. I have seen many in life. But learned to keep a lookout for those guys, when they need you just act blur or anything just say dun have.

Prince of Kao Peh SG

Sianz, now must learn to be like snake, to slither away.

Kao Peh Lar.

spy8reak SG

i haf seen a couple… my only close fren forged himself with 2 other guys… after a little breakdown me and him had at irc… now he mails only to this grp of frens and not to me abt his stuff… where it use to be he always mails me b4 those guys come into the picture, cuz i could contribute sth to his stuff(work). i feel used sometimes but other times i try to forget it. its up to him to choose what frens he wants. i haf no regrets after all, i’ve already apologised to him after that fateful online incident.

Fluffy.white.sheeP SG

damn pek chek la
can understand how u feel but it's liddat one
aniwae, keep an eye out for those who take you for granted and if they ask you for anything again, just dun give em an easy and direct reply like be wishy-washy and uncertain of your answers and make em double guess your answers or u could make it a point nv to discuss school work outta class.
but it's quite sad if u kena stucked with this bunch of people and taking a wrong step is like asking to be ostracised.
if u realli want to go for an outing, be a bit more thicked skinned and ask the first few times and at the end of the day say "call me out for future outings pls thx!" or something along those lines.
After some time they should auto call u for it if u "behaved" properly during those outings.