scared of love, relationships

egotist SG

Like yr signature Yunhaier,
I am a Spirit that seek wandering souls.

I guess someone will come knocking someday, some1 like u. LOL!

Anyway, I felt tt if u really feel withdrawn, u might wanna take a look around and see if there's any1 who look equally withdrawn. All humans are more or less e same, and then different. U might wanna knock on "door" of those u suspect feeling e same. It's always ez to make friends wif some1 of yr frequency, though it's kinda a bad habit to b so choosy...

Cheer up. Btw, i've added ya for MSN. u didn't accept?

mushigen SG

Yeah, agree with bear.

To love someone means having to risk the pain of rejection and broken heart.

If you are so adverse to risk-taking, you'll forever be waiting on the other side of the road, not having the courage to cross the road.

Yunhaier SG

Wink Embarassed

Jazzytunez SG

Hi people, thanks. Smile

Fear is really a crippling thing. The only way out is to brave the storm ( (pains/ sorrows or maybe happiness) and do what i think is right? I want to befriend these people but do these people want to befriend me? Don't you have this kind of doubts sometimes? Maybe because of me being doubtful, make me behaving not myself.

Devil1976 SG

Originally posted by Jazzytunez:
Hi people, thanks.

[b]Fear is really a crippling thing. The only way out is to brave the storm ( (pains/ sorrows or maybe happiness) and do what i think is right? I want to befriend these people but do these people want to befriend me? Don't you have this kind of doubts sometimes? Maybe because of me being doubtful, make me behaving not myself.

[/b]

Have CONFIDENCE in yourself. Cool

Sometimes being overly sensitive is not a good thing.

barkhide SG

Friends dont care whether you are tall, short, fat, thin, ugly, chio, handsome, you just need to be friendly and sincere can liao…I think your fear is of what people think of your looks….which seldom applies to friends…

'm back SG

Mr. Green
i aso veri scared of relationships.
last time got 1 ger bluff me 1 2 b fren fren later
she got me drugged and drunk and brought
me to motel "shiok shiok" and aft that i ......i........i......
woke up crying naked and she aso naked smking a cigar and
told me "dun worry, i will be responsible to u 1 u know!"

i was still a v irgin but not any more!

aft that i lost all trust and faith in all ladies and girls
Crying or Very sad

waterdropletz SG

hey hi… actually i understand how u feel. coz i do have such problems myself. i tend to shun guys who wana have a date wid me. i just can’t control myself. it sounds crazy, but tts me. i tink i just cant open up and get out of my hole. regarding friendships, i dun have problem tokin to friends, be it either male or female. but realising any of the guys have someother feelings, i’ll tend to shun them. maybe its becoz i dun feel anything for them. they dun get it… but neither do i. if this continues, i tink i’ll be a nun.

[email protected]_arms SG

Nah you shun guys who show romantic interest in you because it is in your nature to do so. WHICH is what i keep telling you guys, if u like a girl DUN say it, coz she'll shun you.

[email protected]_arms SG

So am i so am i, am also socially starved. So you are not alone which is the significant thing.

Why don't you relate the long story, maybe it will help you and others like you.

It seems you define intimacy as being with a guy. So the reason your depressed now is coz u aint got a bf? Or is it worse then that, if we define intimacy as normal friends, which you may not even have? But i believe its the bf part.

So you should just be open, but not too open you know what i mean? GO out with them, but do not get too attached, because ANYONE who gets too attached will end up getting hurt because they are held only by a string which is the opposite pary's committment.

Jazzytunez SG

I'm feeling much better now... if u r wondering why there is another post below becos i accidentally click it twice.. the last one should be the first post..

Anyway i start to wrote this thread durin this period of depression... still undergoing rebuilding my social life and healing of my emotional scars..

i'm so glad to see people with similar problem with me... responding to my pleas..

hey hi... actually i understand how u feel. coz i do have such problems myself. i tend to shun guys who wana have a date wid me. i just can't control myself. it sounds crazy, but tts me. i tink i just cant open up and get out of my hole. regarding friendships, i dun have problem tokin to friends, be it either male or female. but realising any of the guys have someother feelings, i'll tend to shun them. maybe its becoz i dun feel anything for them. they dun get it... but neither do i. if this continues, i tink i'll be a nun.

u scared of hurting the guy's feeling and urself isit?
I aso think of being a nun b4 leh but i know i cant run away from problem

Jazzytunez SG

First of all, i'm surprise that this thread is still alive..

My fear of intimacy does not applied to just guy... it's a long story for the cause of this fear and to my problem.... sometime, it's not just a matter and so i cant really elaborate here... It's all very psychologically complicated...

To all those who feel lonely and happen to read this thread,
I can't give the best advice here...

I know loneliness sucks... esp when u r down and no one to turn to...
when u have many farking problems at hand and feel so frustrated and tired...
When u are pull back by ur own fear and make u feel weak and helpless.. in the end u give up on it... but don't become bitter for long... things don't always stay the same.... cos life is always up and down.

There is help somewhere somehow... people, strangers who care like some people in this forum...and friends that u don't really know u well who care to lend u a hand... so don't give up hope... i still believe in frienships...

Thank devil 1976. u strike me... maybe i'm was too sensitive and so i learn not to be too sensitive now... and those other who share their story or giving me advices...

i'm hoping i'm not being mushy. Neutral

Devil1976 SG

Never mushy... You LIVE to EXPRESS yourself... EXPRESS YOURSELF - before your life ends...? Mr. Green

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