Originally posted by cool_elf:
Yo dude, chill out...
At one pt in time, I went thru almost the same stage as you.
When I was in pri and sec sch, I was so happy cos I have a lot of
frens around me. You know the sort where the differents heads think
alike. We would go out to orchard road on weekends jus to chill
out, go fishing, DIY camping, window shopping, looking at girls and
all that. Life was so carefree back then.. cos my frens stayed
nearby my block and so almost everyday we would hangout after
school to talk crap abt school and all that bull.
My life faced a drastic change when I stepped into a tertiary sch.
More of a culture shock really. There were so many 'fake' ppl in my
school and I kinda despised them. When I was in my first year, I
didn't have much frens. More of a loner. I was mighty depressed
that time and I tried to call back and hangout with those school
frens of mine. We met up once in a while and noticed that my frens
were no longer the same ppl as I knew them years ago. Everyone got
together and brag how cool their school were and how many gerls
they dated (ok ok, my tertiary school back then was so uncool. I
shall not say out what school that is). Boasting is the main thing
in our conversations.
And yes... I was so depressed. Very.
When I was in 2nd year, I joined music club. So from there, I tried
to open up myself and make more frens. At least better a bit. I
managed to play in school concerts. It was cool lah. But still I
was kinda shy towards gerls. Yeah I don't even have
gerl-frens.
Enuff of school life.. As usual, went to NS and spent 2 and a half
years there. I still don't have any girl-frens that time.. still
anti social...haha.. I get to know a few gerls and yeah.. from
there.. i did try and error thing.. and uh.. 'i failed'.. you
know.. those relationship things.
And now, I'm in the workforce. The first two years in the workforce
was kinda sad because of the transition from school/ns life to real
life. It's quite an eye opener to see that there are lot of
politics in a workplaces. Backstabbing, unwilling to share
knowledge by seniors and all that shit. So my life was more like
work, going home, work, going home and the cycle repeats itself.
You may ask where are school, NS frens.. they are settling down.
Those buaya frens of mine during school time.. yes.. they are
settling down.
I know how you feel dude..
But now, my life... can say that it's much more happening. I helped
my fren doing flea marts, hanging out wif a fren of mine who likes
to club (i also follow him clubbing), play in gigs (i got a band
lah) and from there, I try to socialise and do some 'networking'.
At this point in time, I've met lots ppl form walks of life... some
are cool to hangout with and some I really detest.
Well back to the point.. everyone do feel lonely at times. Me too.
We have to face it lah. It's a matter of how you deal with
it.
Maybe u can try befriend back those fellas which u feel u can
relate to. Hang out with them, go play pool or go clubbing with
them, whateverlah.. Try to stay away from those manic depressives..
this group of ppl can only make u feel worse.
It seems that u have low self-esteem
problem. U should love yourself more dude. Every morning, look at
yourself in the mirror and ask yourself what kind of person you are
looking at. Have more confidence. Smile always. Be more outgoing..
not to the extent of being pretentious(well.. girls nowadays are
like that! Outgoing, outgoing.. but so fake! hehe..)
Just my 2 cents worth.. Feel good about yourself...
P/S: What kind of person yr gfren is?
Wat's makes her so famous?
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Hi, thanx for ur sincere reply.
Yup, unlke the many ppl i know, i do not rely feel veri
"self-confident". If there is anyone i hate most, it's got to be
myself.
Think she is not "famous"... pretty much like most of the gals i
know. Guess it's jus when comparing my pathetic life to hers, my
problems seemed veri magnified.
