Handling Rejections

RiRi SG · 2004-06-17T11:04:16+00:00

Time will heal.. a lesson to be learnt.. noone likes this kind of pain.. lead your life as usual.. find more things to occupy yourself.. don't worry.. maybe...

RiRi SG

I feel so down. I was just rejected by someone i liked
and now trying to recover feels so painful
Is there anyone out there who has gone through this before?
I just don't know how to handle this.
Any idea how to get pass this pain... i don't like the pain one bit.

gaoyue SG

learn from my fren, do more work to keep yr mind occupied. Laughing

harryryan SG

good advice....numb e mind...but than again ...when u r lying on ur bed n trying to sleep...ur mind tends to wonder n sometimes u cannot help but think of that person...n than e pain will come rite back...sigh....

RiRi SG

I don't want to ignore the pain.. I want to get over it... I know there ain't no easy way but I don't want to be stuck with this problem i want to move on

Working will juz take my mind off it.. I want to overcome the pain =(

gaoyue SG

it takes time, duh, numbing it buys you time, so after some time, you’ll feel better and get over it, but you will have remaining memories to remind you no matter how long.

parn SG

You guy or gal? It matters.... Laughing

shirurinu SG

This is the first time you are rejected? If it's not, how do u recover the last time?

If yes, mayb u can try the following:

1) Adjust your mindset. Tell yourself you deserve more and she rejects u, its her loss.

2) Life isn't only love... Pick up some new interests like sports etc.

3) Go party every night.. Mr. Green meet new ppl... maybe u'll find someone you might be interested in.

4) Read a book...

5) Think of your future, your career, plan for it, work for it. It might keep your mind from wandering to her again...

6) Go upgrade yourself with a coz. Diploma, degree, language, computer, watever...

RiRi SG

Yeah.. I'm in poly now.. It's the holidays. *sigh* thanks for the advise.. and yes.. it's a first =|

Yunhaier SG

In my whole entire life, I was rejected once: and the best part is that I felt happy that I wasn't accepted. (Yun's long story)

Anyway...

Rejection in love is painful? It delivers priceless lessons and if you have the wisdom to discern - you will gain much more.

Cheers

leafygreens SG

well no matter how much we console u its still u who have to stand up n move on...

IMO for people who kena rejected, they only need people to listen & talk to, when its off their minds... its up to them to stand up n move on...

boy in blues SG

learn from mlm
"Some will, some won't. so what? Next." Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

You ask for a hand... You either get accepted or rejected... No big deal (though it might look like one since it's someone which you really love?)... But life still goes on... Trees should grow... Of course you'll feel the pain probably... 1st time... Someone you love... Ya...

Just get on with your life? Better things probably awaits you... Smile

no_speeding SG

Aiya, big deal.
Dun be loser and dwell on it lah...
Move on.
Shocked

kaobeikaobu SG

RiRi, give yourself a chance and to the someone out there who likes you just as you feel for her/him. No one is good or bad for the person he/she likes, just not mean to be.
Don't force yourself to hard to recover. In the process of recovering, take this opportunity to discover yourself, know more about your feelings and ways to handle them. Just as most ppl here suggested join activities to broaden your horizons n perspectives in life etc.
And when you found the someone whom I mentioned earlier on, it will be sweeter than you thought.

'm back SG

Mr. Green

its okay, dun think of suicide or other foolish stuff. some advice here seems to work and u can try them out.

i understand that feelin of loss. u will feel that u cannot live without him or her after being rejected and u wish that u r dead and gone. but it is a poison taken and a lesson learnt. the second time u faced rejection - u will accept it as it is.

take me for example. a girl 5 years my senior was very friendly towards me and i thought that we could have a chance to be together. i broke down when i realised the truth. we can't, shes just being friendly.

the second time i met a girl in poly whom started with me quite well and when a while later she decided to go with another guy, i wasn't feelin much anyway - maybe i do not like her at all, or maybe we are just not meant to be.

many years later i find that i can live on with life, and my priority in life changes from my hobbies, my goals right up to the type of girls i would like to see.

let it go, be free Mr. Green

deathscythe99 SG

Hmmm...and live with an eye for other ppl Wink

ETboy SG

gt rejected 3 time by the ger i like... but still not giving up... maybe it will be the last time i try...

but anyway got rejected , but u still gotta move on

RiRi SG

You advice is really nice.. and so is everyone else.. Thanks..
But honeslty speaking its kinda difficult..
as in when i don't think about it, it leaves me alone but when your alone or when you see something to remind you about it.. it comes back =/
even when you don't want it to.
And hey .. i rather not have to go thru rejection twice..
another thing is i'm not silly enough to die for someone who is alive..
though.. tried to sucided a few times coz of someone from my past =/ den you relize how silly it is.

browniebaobao SG

You will sure face rejections/falls in life. Learn to get over it. It's not the end right? Before you confess your feelings to someone, you should be mentally prepared to get rejected.

jolin80 SG

try to make yrself occupied yrself with things
so tt u wont haf much time to think abt it
or mabbie u can take up some other activities like
playin badminton or bowling blah blah blah
slowly u will feel beta loh... Neutral