help mi anyone... my heart had died

last SG · 2004-03-09T13:11:34+00:00

People grow up.. goals and aims change. I didn't know that i would end up leaving Sg when i met my boyfriend yes? Anyway.. we tried this long distance rubbi...

juzshootmi SG

Sad
itz been almost a month since we broke up
she choose to break up with me on valentines day
and up to the very last second that she said those hurting words to me i've never thought she would ever said that
i'm down to earth... i've never ever did anything wrong to her
not even a second thoughts of two timing cause i love her so much

till the very last second that she said those hurting words to me i've never let her down and infact i've thought of proposing to her soon

i was so happy to c her on valentines day as i've been working nite shift over the weekdays for that week so no chance of seeing her

we have been so loving and i wonder what the hell had gone wrong... what did i do... i ask her and she said i did nothing wrong but just that she wanted to be single again and concerntrate on her career...

i just can't believe what had just happened... the night before we were still talking sweet nothings to each other and the next day i have lost the girl i had love for almost 4 years...

she is a malaysian but a singapore pr
she wanted to quit her job here and return to malaysia to work...

she told me that if i love her i would let her go so she would be happy and she said she still love me deeply but she is been selfish and she is the one who is wrong...
but since she love me why would she let me be so sad and leave me...

i wanted her back... without her my life seems so dead...
on a few occasions i almost died thinking of her
i rode a bike... its been so dangerous as i almost get knock down or i almost knock on to a car
when i cross the road while i was walking... a car almost knock me down if my fren didn't shout at me

pls tell me wat should i do to get her back
pls dun tell me to let her go as there might be others out there that might suit me more
Sad

[email protected] SG

ouch…...

www SG

the key point here is that she told me that if i love her i would let her go so she would be happy .

Lingos SG

OOohhh.. toughie.
Watch out ->> look before crossing zebra crossing.

I don't know what to say. Why don't you ask her what happened?
Sounds like she is just tired of staying in Sg.. she wants to go back home. And you can't or won't go with her (hmmm.. moving to malaysia.. don't think so) ... so she is just tired of Sg.. don't think it's anything to do with you. Just sounds like you were a victim in long distance relationship => obviously she didn't want to keep you waiting indefinitely.

FireIce SG

from "Heaven Knows"

Maybe my love will come back some day
Only heaven knows
And maybe our hearts will find a way
Only heaven knows
And all I can do is hope and pray
'Cause heaven knows

My friends keep tellin' me
That if you really love her
You've gotta set her free
And if she returns in kind
I'll know she's mine

BrUtUs SG

she told me that if i love her i would let her go so she would be happy and she said she still love me deeply but she is been selfish and she is the one who is wrong...

this sums it up, let her go... suan le ba...

Lingos SG

Erm.. she's not coming back. That is the issue. If she was, there will be no heartbreaking scene.

juzshootmi SG

would u let someone who is so dear to u go?

its like i was so happy and the next second i was killed...

Lingos SG

Erm.. does this girl actually knows what she wants!?
Why is she talking about going back to malaysia?
Maybe you need to address those issues!

juzshootmi SG

its not a long distance kind of thingy
she is living here in sg

i just didn't know what had made her change her mind in just a short while...

juzshootmi SG

she said her pay here was pretty low and wanted to go back to earn more
we had discussed on this issue before and everything was ok

Devil1976 SG

WAKE UP...

Your relationship is a bit like my 1st... She said I did nothing wrong too. For years I spent my effort and time trying to figure out what went wrong (she told me that I'll be able to figure it out one day - which I think was only a passing remark which I took too seriously...)... Then I realised something one day... It really DOESN'T matter what happened... Sometimes something happens and we try to remedy it.. Or learn from it so that it won't happen again... But sometimes some things just happens... ACCEPT IT. Though she finally told me the reason years after (we still corresponded through written mails for years...), it really doesn't matter by then... Smile

Lingos SG

I'm refering to when she moves back.. it will be a long distance relationship.

Trust me ... take it from the experienced. It doesn't work .. and it's not easy!

Lingos SG

I am so sick of saying this..
----->> do not bother to find out what went wrong.

It doesn't matter and it will not matter.

Lingos SG

HAR? She can earn more in Malaysia??
Hmm.. then it is obviously more than just pay.

Churra SG

4 yrs again... i've know many couples who broke up during the 4th yr. such an unlucky number...

let her go, or maybe she has other reasons which she didn't tell you.

juzshootmi SG

Originally posted by Devil1976:

[b]WAKE UP...

Your relationship is a bit like my 1st... She said I did nothing wrong too. For years I spent my effort and time trying to figure out what went wrong (she told me that I'll be able to figure it out one day - which I think was only a passing remark which I took too seriously...)... Then I realised something one day... It really DOESN'T matter what happened... Sometimes something happens and we try to remedy it.. Or learn from it so that it won't happen again... But sometimes some things just happens... ACCEPT IT. Though she finally told me the reason years after (we still corresponded through written mails for years...), it really doesn't matter by then... Smile [/b]

thks
but she was crying n crying when she said those words...
that proves she still love me deeply
i must know what went wrong

phreak SG

She tio cancer.

<sk> SG

As you sure she can earn more in M'sia? With the current exchange rate of 2.25 to 1Sing dollar? I think, she just lost that feeling for you... and I guess she is wandering if she can find someone better. Thats the plain black and white I see.

Give some specs:
What does she work as?
What's her qualifications?
How old are you and her?
Do you still keep in contact?

Lingos SG

Yeah.. so did I..
after 4 years .. things get stale.