To Angles, Yunhaier and all who responded to me without
fail:
Yes, Thanks for your reply. I understand her problems and the
problem is she DENY. She told me she had already moved on....If she
does, must she wait till today??? (loophole again). Her friends had
introduced her to many guys before me but all she cannot accept and
the only reason she can give is: the 2 CANNOT Click...it is a LAME
excuse...The TRUTH is she can't forget her EXs, the hurt from the
Bad Relationships with guys...and the problems she had with her
family...Why can't human Beings faced reality?? Why choose to
escape from the real problems and keep bluffing others??
She told me although she keeps saying/mentioning negative views
about guys but SHE DOES NOT MEAN IT...All of U believe this
statement? I won't believe it even if I was beaten to death as the
loopholes lie on she even tell all these statements to her close
lady friends and by the way she is very close to those friends as
she trusted them more than her own family members!!! How
pathetic.
She used to tell me the 2 of us (me) can click but during the last
argument, she told me can click does not mean can accept me and
when I probe further...she cannot answer me and insists I keep in
contact with her. My close friend told me to ignore THIS Request
and move on so that I can get over and recover. She basically does
not know what she wants after 6 months..... I understand she still
have no confidence in me and scare I DISAPPOINT her again and chose
to remain on the safe side (As what Yunhaier had mentioned) so that
she will not be hurt but indirect she is getting to NOWHERE. This
is the PRICE to pay
My close friends indirectly hinting me that I am WASTING MY
TIME..she is not worthy of my time and why spend efforts on a
person who had already given up in the 1st place?
My friend's email to me:
Don't you know that life itself is dramatic. Lots of people goes
round
denying their true feelings. Thought that they are protecting the
other party but in fact only hurting each other more. If your lady
friend is forthcoming, you wouldn't have all this problems now
right would you. 
If you don't mind me saying, do not try to use your concept and
ideas and think that it will work for her. Different people have
different circumstances. She might think that by not answering you,
she is doing the right thing. She is of a mature age, she should
know what is good for her and what is not. I know you think that is
a
waste that this relationship doesn't bloossm. But don't you think
that even if she accept you, there will be constant comparison
between you and her ex (by her). I'm sure you will not stand it.
Haven't we come to a conclusion that she just wouldn't move on.
Pity...... only if she could let go......
Like you say, time will heal, I mean you... not her, she seems to
dwell to much into the past. You tried but fail to move her. Look
from the other point of view, you and her are not meant to
be......I know some things are easily said than done, but i'm sure
you can prove to her that you can move on.And maybe by than she
would be able to realised that she can move on too.
Well, I had done my best and each time whenever the result is not
in my favour, I will be very sad..........Sian. This incident had
taught me a lesson - A lady's heart is very complicated..very
difficult to understand.
Any comment?
