i know exactly what you mean. simple example ..... younger sis
snatches older bro's toy. older bro retaliates. older bro gets
scolding for not sharing 
well ...... what can we say?
ok, this problem will cease as soon as your parents realize that
you've grown up and is more independant, etc. then, you will have a
"voice" in the family. becoz, prior to this, you've always been a
lil' child to them. just listen to what daddy and mummy says, becoz
daddy or mummy knows best. almost 20 yrs of treating a person in
that manner, and then all of a sudden he's grown up. they've become
too accustomed to treating you in that way. everyone needs time to
change their mindset.
they need some time to acknowledge that their son has grown up and
they need to give him that "voice" in the family. afterall, parents
are just normal ppl like us, having gone through the same phases in
life, but some tend to forget what it was like to be growing up. it
was probably too long ago.
well, for me, my dad was the fierce one. he was a discipline master
in school. i can't even remember how many times he had whipped me
with either a cane or a belt. imagine going to school with short
pants and having those red cane marks on your legs. but, nowadays,
the story has changed. i manage my own life, with advice from them,
of coz. but, it's also becoz i ask them for advice (hmm, i've
changed ..... a lot ..... anyway). you'll grow up to recognize the
many times they were right. things like, "why spend so much money
on this and that (branded clothes, etc.). you'll know what the
feeling is like when you try to earn your own money." you will come
to realize that they were right.
i wish someone told me this earlier. but, then again, i won't
believe them becoz the anger and frustration gets in the way. PLUS,
i won't be matured enuff to think that way at that time ........
too many factors ...... just too many. and trust me when i say i
know what you feel. afterall, all these things happened for me not
too long ago.
and nowadays ..... "you going to penang? want to take the car?
alright, drive safely and sms us when you get there. the car has
been serviced recently, so there shouldn't be any problems. enjoy
yourself."
just a short 3 yrs ago, the answer would have been, "you going to
penang? no need to ask us first is it? no, cannot". that would have
been the end of the conversation. my dad is not a person to argue
with. always the one with the last say.
in the recent yrs, he has learnt to change and he has acknowledged
the changes in me too. but, one thing i'm not too happy about
....... my younger sis is now reaping the benefits of the change in
my dad! he's not as strict with her as he was with me (flowing with
the times lolz) just kidding!! i luv my sis 
(though i used to hate her so much when i was young, but
that's a totally diff story)
