Break up sorrows

last SG · 2004-02-27T23:48:46+00:00

Mistreat her, never appreciate, equiped with flaws, etc - when you decide to change for the better, she had already lost the reason and will to continue thi...

snowep SG

I just broke up with my gf abt a month ago. I find it hard for myself to get over it. as for the reason, I was not a caring enough person for him. I mistreat her and never treasure her when she was with me even when she is living with me for more than half a year I think. no that I have regretted and wanted to change for her, she decided to leave me and I can’t get it over. I promise her I will change and prove to her I will be caring to her again. but without her by my side, how will she know I have change to be more caring to her. I have a lot of bad habits like smoking and drinking. I can drop all that if she decide to come back to me. but I think she have to be there to see it right? if she is not with me, how will she know? I really don’t know what to do with myself now. I feel so lost without her. this is the 1st time I come to such forums to seek for some advice…

epImetheus SG

try to find another gf.

snowep SG

If i can, i have already done so. like i say i really think she is the love of my life. how to infd another love of my life? not opssible right?

weeeeeee..... SG

too late, dude... now then u regret. why dont u treasure her when u were wif her and feel remorse after she left u?

when a girl's heart is "dead", there's no way of getting it back.

always remember to cherish when u have it, not do something wrong and regret later.

snowep SG

like that, does that means there is no way to get her back? there is no way to saviour this relationship?

Paperboat SG

maybe let her cool off for some time. after that try to show it to her that you changing for the better. you shd know what are the things she doesn't like abt you, get rid of them. but dun overdo it....not asking you to pester her. try to talk calmly ok.

if after that she remains very determined for a breakup, let her go. her heart is really dead and you must have hurt her very badly. move on with your own life then. wish you well.

realitybites SG

well it's sorta like trying to piece back a broken vase, it's never gonna be the same again

snowep SG

could there be anything i could do now?

weeeeeee..... SG

very difficult lah... as u have said it, she's not there to see ur change no matter how much change u have been thru.

and u r doing her next bf a big favour. her next bf need not be very good or fantastic, juz a normal plain guy will do... and when she compare u and her next bf, she will find that her next bf is damn good already, the best that she can ask for already... even tho he is ok ok, so-so, or normal normal... provided her next bf doesnt mistreat her like u did.

Paperboat SG

yes, ask yourself if you can really change for her. dun make empty promises.

also, get your mindset right and dun hold high expectations.

weeeeeee..... SG

yes... let her go. if u love her, and u want her to be happy, let her go...

sillyme SG

pick up the pieces and learn..

if you think there are things about you that you should change.. do it..

snowep SG

i will sure chage if she really say she will give me the chance. that is not only a promise. i will swaer to it. i can do anything to get her back with me….

Patrik SG

U have to say all these to her….

weeeeeee..... SG

u will only bring more sorrows to the both of u.....
learn to let go, she'll be happier, if that's ur concern.

take ur time to change for the better, and when the next girl comes into ur life, demonstrate ur change to her...

Paperboat SG

both of u might have ended in a heated arguement, i don’t know. but all it takes is just one more attempt to plead her, you can ascertain if there’s a way back. if not, dun pursue anymore. like what the others have said, learn from your mistake and let her go.

sillyme SG

change for your own sake.. not for her..

jolin80 SG

u shd change for yr own sake not for anyone else
i'm sure u can do it ... do have faith in yrself

sound like u felt abit regret nw ...
well.... we usually dun realise their gd
when we have 'em... dun b sad cheer up
life still need to carries on

hopy SG

2 wrongs doesn't make a right lor Rolling Eyes

snowep SG

thanks for all the advice. i will change and that is for sure.; as for forgetting her completely, i don’t think i can do it.