Things are not always your fault. One should nvr go into a r/s
expecting another person to change.
Yes, it will take time to get over. And it takes lots of courage
and guts to lead life on ur own again. Luv urself...for if even u
wil not luv urself then who will. I took a very long time to get
over my first luv....4 yrs, and I was miserable for 4 yrs. But
after 4 yrs, when my ex tried to get back together with me...I
finally look ovr the r/s after 4 yrs, i realise we were nvr meant
to be and will nvr be.I was too possessive and he needed the kind
of freedom which I will nvr be able to give and he would nvr have
the kind of time which I needed a guy to commit in a r/s with me.
In fact, I should nvr change him...he will be happier the way he
is. So I rejected him...and then suddenly the whole burden was
taken of me.
Look at me....I m now happily married with kids. After my ex, I nvr
thought I could find someone. I was cautious to a new r/s for a
very long time. But my husband, then boyfriend was patient, kind
and perserved. He gave me time to slowly accept a new relationship
and I found someone who was willing to commit the time to nurturing
a r/s w me. Yes, my husband and I are bz, I work close to 12 hrs a
day, he works too and many times overnight, but we make sacrifices
just to sustain the r/s. Yes...I luv my hubby more n more each day.
My ex....he became my very good friend...he is also happily married
to a woman who does not need him to commit time. I m good friends w
his wife too....and when I look at her, I realise I will not be
able to be like her, she is truely meant for him.
Now looking back, the first relationship didn't work out not
because I was at fault or he was at fault. We just had different
views on what was to be committed into a relationship, if anyone
had changed our views for the other, we would have been miserable.
Yes, in a relationship, couples do compromise sometimes, but nvr to
the point u become uncomfortable...or feel that is not worth it.
And it takes two to clap.
No one is asking u to start a new r/s. But just don't close ur
heart when the next one comes along...u nvr know....the next one
might be the right one. I m not asking u not to cry, do cry...vent
ur frustrations and allow time for ur heart to heal.
Remember, there are always pple who luv u and care for u.
