financial aspects in a realtionship

CuTiE~~ SG

haiz...sometimes i also think i am thinking too much into it...

perhaps i should just forget it & take one step at a time?

but i frequently ask myself...is he the one? Neutral

epImetheus SG

since you already have doubts, why still carry on the burden? Neutral

sillyme SG

yes, take things one step at a time.. Smile
time will tell..

Yunhaier SG

I) Doesn't matter

II) Doesn't matter

III) Doesn't matter.

Who got money, want to pay, pay - it's really worrying and questioning the identity of your relationship when your guy were to say 'you working, got more money, you pay for meals.' Have your relationship reduce to nothing but calculative expenses?

Don't get me wrong: Even if he has no money - if he were to fork out whatever he could, be it 2 dollars or so, doesn't he display quality that says 'I don't want you to carry full burden.'

The initial thought and the body language carries more weightage than words like 'I love you.'

Cheers

Devil1976 SG

Alot of good replies in here... Cool

Just to round things up. I agree that 'cross-over' from personal spending in a couple should be minimial unless you're talking about IMPORTANT and URGENT expense to be forked out... (then again, don't be too naive and get cheated too easily... Cool )

Spending in a relationship can be 'controlled' somehow... The kinda activities you go out for and such... Just like your own spendings in life.. Go for what you CAN afford...

CuTiE~~ SG

dear all~
thks so much for your opinions/views/consolation........
indeed i feel much better after pouring out my feelings out here...

perhaps seeing it in another light, in all relationships there are bound to be some problems here & there...perhaps how it develops greatly depends on how each of us view the issues...?

undeniable...there will be some good pts in our partners...it lies with where our focus is...

i wish all of u well in your relationship with ur other half........
of course, i will also keep my fingers crossed for mine... Rolling Eyes

Lingos SG

Finances is so important in the relationship..

I'm sure if you're liberal with money you wouldn't want to be with a tight arse.

Also my boyfriend and I fight over buying a residential house for ourselves. I used to get really violent by driving like a maniac and scaring the hell out of him. Once i even threw him out of the car and drove off. Hehehehe..

KittynMeow SG

wah fierce.... too fierce... kekeke

Devil1976 SG

Shocked

octega SG

x2. Totally agree. My view is finance is one of the foundation in a relationship (well, at least in Singapore I think)

Lingos SG

Well guys.. it wasn't so bad until he said.. Look it's my money and i'll do what i want with it. So i cracked it. He assumed that it's only his money being sucked into the house.
Anyway he came home and apologised. That's more Shocked

s|nNeD SG

just like wat my gf tells me... Neutral

edwinSSM SG

For guys, get a Girlfrend only if u have the money... I dun have sufficient money to support 2 people, that's why i dun go into a relationship at the moment.

Some might disagree, but I always feel that it's the men's responsiblity to provide for the women.

Lingos SG

OMG what century are you stuck in? You plan to support your wife so that she can be a baby producing machine? hehehe.. how many do you want to have? Geez... You don't have anyone interested in you, that's why you don't have a relationship at the moment would be closer to the truth. I'm not flaming you edwin, but you're asking for it by stating such chauvinist points when I'm around.

Dude, my boyfriend earns much more than me. Only in Uni did i say that i can't afford the rent when we were moving out. That was because he didn't like any of the places i looked at in my price range and offered to pay more. I paid $500 a month. Since i've graduated and we moved to some other house that is more expensive, i've been going half half even though he insists that i don't have to pay him half of it. Even when i was dead broke, i just gave him $650 a month for rent. Cos he doesn't shop for clothes, i buy stuff for him cos i know his size better than him.

Souledge SG

Honestly.... i think it is craps... see there are guys here who live off women... but on the other hand there are girls here who like guys must pay for everyone.... why can't we go dutch... i mean if both of them are working why must only one party pays..... luckily my gf not like this.... Mr. Green

KittynMeow SG

agree.... everyone should bear some responsibility for their own expenses....

then you are a lucky guy... Smile

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