nanako SG my motto oso " his money is our money , my money is my money " i think at times gf bf go out, sometimes he pay sometimes i pay its fine lor .. but if he purposely no work n depend too much on u, its very very wrong already.... there's no need to find a rich guy as bf , u have to find a guy that's willing to spend on u , thats more important
CuTiE~~ SG actually the issue of who's paying for what & the frequency of payment has never been an issue to me... who got money pay for it lor... until then he brought up this issue... eversince i started working, I make it a point to pay... sad thing is, he don't appreciate my efforts...
Ah Ma SG huh hw come lidat 1? nt becos u work then mus pay for everyting mah. mayb u all dn do so many spend money activities lor. tat can reduce expenses spent.
X-men SG agreed in general money makes the world goes round. but money and r/s should not mix. You pay your own bills.. I pay mine. You need help ask for it BUT dont abuse it.
KittynMeow SG Irresponsible... he has to wake up his idea.... *shake head* Doesn't mean just because you're working means you pay cos you have your own expenses to look after also...
epImetheus SG Originally posted by CuTiE~~: but how will you handle this issue if both are still schooling...but the guy's getting more pocket money than the gal... -both parties should pay their own share when going out together, but if the guy wants to pay for the gal, then it's his business. the guy is in NS...gal is schooling.. -i really do not know very tricky. gal is working, guy is still schooling...will you expect the gal to pay for most of the meals, expenses together? -i would expect the guy to pay for both [b]only if he can afford it. but the gal should not take it for granted that the guy will pay for everything [/b]just my personal naive opinions
sillyme SG the essential thing is that both parties should not put the issue of money above the relationship.. but that doesn't mean that one should allow the other person to abuse it to a point when one is over-dependant on another financially..
CuTiE~~ SG in fact we don't have any spend money activities...just once in a blue blue moon... i can say only expenditure is only on meals together...
KittynMeow SG then settle for cheaper meals at hawker centre etc?? tat kind of budget he should be able to pay his own right??
CuTiE~~ SG sometimes, he does pay for both parties... but i oso swear that I have contributed my part..... but he said that he feels i take the issue of money very hard...& the ratio of him paying vs i pay...is higher... & he starts to bring out those days whereby he paid for most of the times when we both are still schooling... i just don't understand...y has a simple relationship gone to such complicated path...
KittynMeow SG sounds like he's either becoming dependent cos you're earning $$ or he's feeling insecure... that he doesn't earn $$ / enough $$ to "support" gf?? mebbe to be fair, from now on, each pay for your own meal?? at least he got no issue to raise??
sillyme SG i assume you're both of the same age.. you're working and he's in university after army.. he's just feeling the strain of spending money.. perhaps, encourage him to take a part-time job..
CuTiE~~ SG we don't splurge at expensive restaurants... always settle for simple meals at hawker centres... he told me it's an issue of ego... cos now i'm earning...he is not... where my topic revolves round shopping...while he is talking about making ends meet with his pocket money... whenever i am with him, i understand his plight & try to pay for meals unless at that very moment, my wallet don't have enough.. i feel like ending this relationship...things have gotten so complicated...i really dunno how to resolve them... unhappy events keep flashing on my mind...ignite anger & hatred.......
epImetheus SG Originally posted by CuTiE~~: we don't splurge at expensive restaurants... always settle for simple meals at hawker centres... he told me it's an issue of ego... cos now i'm earning...he is not... where my topic revolves round shopping...while he is talking about making ends meet with his pocket money... whenever i am with him, i understand his plight & try to pay for meals unless at that very moment, my wallet don't have enough.. i feel like ending this relationship...things have gotten so complicated...i really dunno how to resolve them... unhappy events keep flashing on my mind...ignite anger & hatred....... [/b]perhaps breaking up might be better for both parties?
KittynMeow SG I understand,.. this kind very hard to resolve the issue cos the issue is in his head (what he's thinking and his ego). Encourage him to take up tuition so that he can earn a bit every month... then wun feel so bad on the ego. And try not to talk abt shopping... there are many other things happening ard the world to talk abt.... and try not to think too much abt the unhappy moments.. think of the happy times...
CuTiE~~ SG i seldom mention about shopping...just that he does not feel good when he sees me buying things... i ever encouraged him to take up tuition...but he told me he does not like to give tuition... my stand is, who on earth likes to give tuition..or rather work...? but as long as it can help to lighten up ones burden, i dun see why not...
KittynMeow SG Haiz.... *pat pat* just take it step by step lah.. you still young... dun let such things get you down...
