Originally posted by X-men:
[b]Clarification first, Its not my relationship problem
cause I have got no BG relationship to give me
problem.
Last night at about 11.30pm got a call from a guy friend who needed
a listening ear as his gf has just ended their 3year 9month
relationship. I ended up lending my ears for 2.5 hours
Im so
sleepy today. 
Anyway, heres his story:
Hes 30 and Shes 22 this year.
Reason she gave for the break up, life style different.
They met at a karaoke joint few years back. He has not have any gf
for 7 years until he met her.
She is wild in nature, cheonging most of the time while he is a
homely person who has already planned for their future. When to buy
house, when to ROM, when to hold wedding dinner etc all have been
planned. Joint account has reached an amazing figure of 10+k. It
all looks like they will be heading for the red carpet till last
Saturday.
Anyway, things happened on last Wednesday, he caught her with
another guy. She claims that the guy was not the 3rd party as they
are long time friends and they have not started anything
. Yet. But
she is happy when go cheonging with this particular guy. That night
when he caught her, he saw the guy putting his arms around her
when in a cab on her way home. She insisted that she has not done
any dui bu qi him things.
The reason she gave was that he was not able to company her to her
weeknights cheong sessions. She felt so left out when she told her
friends that she has got a lao gong yet most of them have not seen
him BUT the nature of his job does not allow him to have late
nights on weekdays.
He is willing to change but she refused to let him change because
she have tried to change to a homely person for him and she find it
painful, maybe due to her age and unsettle nature.
He is not willing to let this relationship go because he has made
up his mind that SHE will be the one. He accepted her everything
(including the abortions she had, her outings with other guys) and
willing to spend the rest of his life with her. He wanted her to
give him another chance to work out their difference but she is not
willing to do so.
Actually I also dont know how to advise him. He wanted to chase
her back no matter what as he cant let her go, as mentioned, she
is the FINAL one. To me, once a gal change their heart its VERY
difficult to make them change back.
Told him that be it the issue of 3rd part or not, their age
difference is still a major concern unless they can come to a
compromise to suit each others life styles. If a relationship is
strong without any cracks, no 3rd party will be able to get in. I
believe she is planning to let go of this relationship way before
this guy appears. Its just that he happened to appeared at the
right time.
Lastly I told him to go for his oversea assignment trip on
Wednesday and (he told me that he have arranged to meet her on the
eve of his birthday (the day hes coming back)) talk to her to see
if she has started off with that guy when they meet up.
If yes, then let her go, stay in contact. Who know, maybe when she
wants to settle down, she will think of him.
If no, then if he wanted to win her back, by all means try.
I wish him luck.
What do you guys think? Does he stand a chance? Personally I dont
think so.
This is a based on a TRUE story
.
[/b]
ok...she's not really dat ready for a steady and serious
r/s...
and yes...u r rite...if their r/s is very steady, ntng can come in
between dem lor..
i mean their diff is oready dere, leopards never change its
spots...
well, the guy can still try his luck...provided the so called "3rd
party" din win her heart...
/me search for yunhaier...
yun's a better person at this... 
