SADness fall ... hw to really forget someone

last SG · 2003-11-03T19:19:37+00:00

Do something that will push you to the limit…...

devillove SG

juz broke up wif my gf(1n half yr)......
onli 4 a few hr n i starting to tink/miss her liao.....
cant even get to slp dun noe how to go to work tml....

life suddenly seem to loss all it meanin.....n lonely sadness helpless pain....is wat i feelin now.....
WAT can i do ?? to get out of it???
tis feelin is really damed pian...*SOBSOB

tsubi SG

Do what you like doing, e.g. hobby, sport. If can try to go out with friends so that you can forget about it. Find another girl to chase if possible (might be hard for you now), but that is the best way to forget your ex. But only time will make you forget about her.

I broke up with my ex 2 months already, and now I still think about her sometimes. The more you love that person, the longer you'll take to forget her. There's nothing much you can do seriously.
But anyway take it easy, positive thinkings from time to time are important. ChEeR uP bRo!

akino SG

hihi... i juz broke up with my bf 2-3 months ago. until now still think of him.. i miss him but cant tell... wat i wanna say is let the time takes the way. show the girl u can be happy without her. put the past behind us n let the time takes the way. hee this phase is from lion king... hehe... work work work or play play play... all the best. akino Wink

the Bear SG

sometimes you never get over them..

i know i will never..

Insightist SG

No use crying over bitches.~

eterna SG

bad news... hahaa...
there is no instant cure for a broken heart...

time is the best healer... but there will always be a scar...
but it is u who decide whether it will become a scar, a memory, a part of ur life, or it remains a oozing wound...

I dun really have much advice except, just remember dun let your sink... it is an addiction, the deeper u sink into depression, the harder it is for u to get out, the longer it takes to heal...

just forget, and let it go...
the sense of loss will never really go away... it will always be there...
what if, what if... but with time, it will get fainter and maybe more bearable... if u choose to dwell on it, it will only get stronger... and make u feel worse...

it has been almost 2 years for mi... i'm still trying to forget... to move on... just dun give up... i have survived 2 years without her, and i show her i can live without her...

u just need to survive long enuff for another to come and mend ur heart... lol...

milo83 SG

very sad.. but at least u were together b4..
i'm sure u hv sweet memories together.. u sure u wan to forget her?
it's hard cos there r alot things surrounding to remind u of her..
dun worry.. just cry when u need to.. it helps to relieve ur sad feelings.. and slowly u will get tired of feeling sad.. hee i always do this.. cos when u keep repeating doing something.. u will feel sianz..

for me? i dun even know what's my relationship wif him.. i nv felt this way b4.. seems tt i'm a spare tyre.. makes me feel sad n lost so many times but i can't let go.. Crying or Very sad

ntu slacker SG

likewise Crying or Very sad

devillove SG

thank for all ur tip.....
i try my best........
but for e whole of todae i juz keep tinkin of her........
i try to occupy my self wif junk of thing but still cant.........
hope time can really heal a person broken heart

f.1 SG

love....wat a wondrous emotion.

lose yourself & indulge in yourself from now on.....
until u meet the next one....

eterna SG

on the plus side...
i found myself more free to do whatever i like...
can go out with watever girl available at the moment
and found myself alot more money in my pocket too...

whahahhaaaaaa!

Do|pHinE SG

me oso juz break off not long.. Smile hmMmm...i koe tt time will heal.. u juz break .. of cuz will tink of her...cuz u used to her presence ... meanin she no sms u .. u will feel uneasy..slowli...time will help.. do tings to kip urself busy.. bt dun tell urself dun tink of her..cuz u will tink of her even more... YuPz... all the best~!

CuTiE~~ SG

reading through the replies which all of u have put up, there are few tots that struck me......

y break-ups are initiated when you know after breaking off, you will not be better off & will suffer from all the flashback of memories?

what is love? & how can you be sure that the one is for u?

painful relationship means the end? Confused

anyone of u have any theory or ans...........for me, i find none... Neutral

CuTiE~~ SG

hi devillove,

i guess the onli way to stop urself from thinking abt her is to keep urself occupied with work or activities...
meet up with old frens & engage urself in activities which you enjoy doing all along or those which u have missed doing for a long time...

if u say u want to forget her, u r onli deceiving urself.......memories are made & no matter where you go, her presence will always be around u.....if u r very sure of letting go this relationship, open ur heart & move on...keeping those unforgettable moments which were spent as lovely memories that has been made... Smile

eterna SG

for the first... i wasn't realli given a choice am I? She love mi no more, even i still do love her? what can i do? not as if i can stop her from leaving? she is happy, i'm not. This is life.

for the 2nd, well, i have no idea too, u just have to trial and error and hope for the best...

for teh 3rd, highly likely. why remain in a relationship when it is painful... although, i must admit, sometimes pain is addictive... this is human nature... but generally, if it is painful, everything will accumulate. and eventually something big will happen... for teh worse... but if both is able to give and take alittle, then it isn't realli painful rite? if u find urself always feeling hurt... well, it is not a good sign...

well, break up always hurts, except for some jerks and some bitches... but in general, it hurt like hell... well, i guess, u just have to try not dwell in it, or see/talk to her for a least a few months... dun let anything remind u of her for the next few months Smile

go do something different, treat urself to some goodies, hang out with long lost friends, go meet more pple... pick up a new hobby Smile just dun dwell on it for a least for the moment...

Devil1976 SG

You can expect ALOT of THEORIES from YUN... Mr. Green As for your questions.. This is what I personally think...?

Originally posted by CuTiE~~:
reading through the replies which all of u have put up, there are few tots that struck me......

y break-ups are initiated when you know after breaking off, you will not be better off & will suffer from all the flashback of memories?

Sometimes situation just does not encourage or allow for the existence of the relationship.... It can be a 'no point' thing. It can also be a 'cons over pros' situation. It can be at a certain POINT when things become UNBEARABLE.

what is love? & how can you be sure that the one is for u?

What is 'love'? Depends on from which perspective you wanna see it from? Personally, I was trying to work out a 'theory' which also would probably comes out with my own definition of 'love'. But its not here yet. Too busy stuck with work and academic studies lately...

How can you be sure if he / she is 'the one'? Pardon me if I have this wrong... But in my own opinion... You can't. Love aside. For almost ANYTHING in this world, you can't be TOTALLY CERTAIN. How do you wanna define 'the one'? People DO change from time from time.. Very often he / she could be your 'the one' at this point but not at another... He / she might try to do everything just to PLEASE you... Does that make him / her 'the one'? If he / she does things behind your back but you never get to learn about it... To you, he / she might still be 'the one'. But is he / she? Even till the day you die, I guess you can never be too sure... Unless you just wish to give him / her this 'title' despite any changes that might come?

painful relationship means the end?

Not necessarily... People do experience pain from time to time, that doesn't mean it's necessarily the end of them. Just like obstacles and hardships you might experience in your everyday life, it's just a matter of whether you choose to stick on to it or to give it up? Either decision, there's usually no guaranteed outcome... Just a matter of your judgement of a possible outcome and hence a decision....

anyone of u have any theory or ans...........for me, i find none... Neutral

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Regards....

sadsadguy SG

It take time to learn to take the pain and grow with it ... But I guess you can never really forget someone. Personally, I have one person in the heart Embarassed whom I do not want to ever forget.

[email protected]_arms SG

life suddenly seem to loss all it meanin.....n lonely sadness helpless pain....is wat i feelin now.....
WAT can i do ?? to get out of it???
tis feelin is really damed pian...*SOBSOB

HA! No, there isnothing that can be done. What you feel now will consume you, it wil engulf you and make you an evil depressed oddball, as it did to me. Get used to it. Soon after lengthy periods of time, you will then get an aura, which will create aversion in everyone you meet.

[email protected]_arms SG

I dun really have much advice except, just remember dun let your sink... it is an addiction, the deeper u sink into depression, the harder it is for u to get out, the longer it takes to heal...

I must be very deep then.

Yunhaier SG

You answer for me using the Devil's theory. Twisted Evil

/me take notes.