Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Dear winky,
Lady, I apologise for replying this late - however I hope you spare
me a minute or two just by listening to what I have to say. I am
[b]going to so frank and direct that you will be thinking
that I am so fierce, etc - because I don't want you regret and give
yourself excuses like nobody did say anything to dissuade you.
There are two guys in the picture - classified as someone you love
and someone that loves you. This issue has little to do with the
guy who wanted to chase but you have little feelings for - because
you have little feelings for him and that the fact is that he won't
stand a chance - don't lead him on. Someone that
likes you ain't a problem UNLESS you think its a problem or you are
the one leading the problem - sort and clarify yourself about this
guy first before you move on to any decision (take one problem
issue one at the time). 
Then it comes to the real picture - this ex of yours. SERIOUSLY,
DON'T BE A FOOL! Look! He started to SMS you more
and flirt with you with words JUST because he knew
you like him - at advantage ground. If he still have feelings, etc
- he would have long ago did something - doesn't have to wait until
now, which obviously, he has zero feelings for you.
He hinted he wanted sex? He has shown his sly true colour - the
lust that he was craving, you as his potential sex object. Why will
he sweet talk? Because he wants to enter into you. If you truely
love someone - do you think that first thing is
sex? HELL NO!
And you would agree to it? Don't be a fool! Come on, give it to him
because you love him, etc? Let me put in this in way - my few years
of counselling has told me that - YOU WILL NEVER ABLE TO RETAIN
HIM. Mark my words and this is
not a challenge to prove me wrong, because the
risk is far too great.
You want to know why you are so willing to give it to him? Because
you feel that he did wrong in the relationship, this gulit in you
subconscious influence to think that its worth letting him lust
over you even though he don't love you.
This guy you loved years back is already 'dead' -
years passed and he has changed. He is no longer the same person
although he may look the same, etc. He knows your weakness for him
- he knows that you have hurt him and he will make use of this to
gain what he wants.
You have made a mistake last time - by accepting his potential
offer - YOU WILL BE MAKING THE SECOND MISTAKE. You don't want to
move on with your life - he has moved long ago. You want prove?
Check out the girls after you, tried jioing, etc - truely you are
just a memory of the past.
P.S: There is no such thing as too much free sex. So, 'what given
his standard, he won't go back to his ex for sex' is all rubbish.
You don't understand guys and is extremely naive too - I am
speaking on the basis of an direct stranger, words from directly
from your womanly instinct that you have long abandon. If
experience is what you need to learn and understand my post: Good
luck.
Cheers [/b]
hey, thanks for the advise. i think you are right.
he really dun have anything for me except lust. because i just
recieve the info from him that he wants nothing more then just a
sexual relationship from me. pure lust and sex. no more.
i felt very disappointed with him. the man i know dun exist
anymore. guess its time to move on. easier said than done. sigh.
total disappointment.
