missing my ex

last SG · 2002-09-25T23:22:19+00:00

good for u, i always tell myself if life was easy, it'd be boring. if i may suggest, it may be a good idea to stop contacting ur ex. he can still be in ur h...

RuthBaby SG

the hurtz is too deep Crying or Very sad

aHGer^83 SG

i seggest…stay in contact wif ur ex…u r married….improve ur married life…and treat ur ex as a very good fren whom u can confide in when u have probs…

duotiga83 SG

wat is past is a past…u hav to continue ur life

raingal SG

Unless feelings are not involved here else it can be a torture.

BliX SG

You say that you still miss him....but does he feel the same towards you????

And i believe that commitment is an element of every relationship?

digibell SG

Dear All,

I am trying very hard to stop thinking abt my ex and to continue with my married life. I know my hubby is the best husband one can find.

I have thot of keeping my ex as just a good fren but how to when I miss him every day and it's a torture. He miss me too, he says. Altho he regrets that we did not meet again sooner (before I married) he has asked me to try harder at my marriage since i just got married.

We are both trying to control our feelings but we both wish we had a chance to try again.

Can a person love two persons at the same time?

Xiao Long Nu SG

y nt u leave both of them for a while and think who u really like?

xavier1979 SG

Yes, you can. But then, faithfulness comes into play.

Devil1976 SG

You can... But you take the risk... Yes... Faithfulness, love... And what you want...? Realise that 'love' does not necessarily have to come at such a 'personal level'....

Best of both worlds...? Yes... Unless you tell your husband about it and both him and your ex comes to an agreement to it... Which seems... Rather unlikely in your case... Besides, doing such an act greatly venture your marriage....

Your Ex is your love... But at the same time a potential threat to your marriage (though not a direct one...)..... Risk factor...

Ex + You = threat to marriage

Ex + You = Love (which supposingly would increase with time or degrade naturally)

As Love increases, threat to marriage relatively increases.

Side effects include: As Love increases, amount of time & energy contributed and risk factor to go off track relatively increases....

Idea How well can you control yourself emotionally in the situation would be a big factor, including your Ex's control and your hubby's tolerance level....

If you have LOW or NO control, it's a gamble up to you to take...

If you have semi or moderate control ENOUGH to let you step on the brakes. You can choose to carry on but REMEMBER the BRAKES when you know things are getting out of hand. But side-effects include inducing your Ex to fall deeper for you & your hubby's opinion of your relationship between you and your Ex. Not forgetting the chances for misubderstandings.... Be PREPARED.

xavier1979 SG

Why do I get a feeling that you are a Science student in school? Mr. Green

D3athwish SG

Oh no ... prelude to divorce Rolling Eyes

s_40 SG

Cannot leave both lah..she married leh, nt normal bf gf.

I tink tt guy is ur ex for a reason lor, mayb he can make u happy, so he can oso make other girls happy lor. I tink a more impt issue in marriage is who gives u more security? If u divorce ur husband for this guy, can he give u happiness? Neutral

Xiao Long Nu SG

can leave home....go holiday for a wk? and sort ur feelings out..is best to be alone n tink

digibell SG

My hubby gives me a sense a security, that's why I married him and he is very loving towards me. But when I see my ex, my heart beats fast and I feel very happy when I receive his sms. I really dun know if my ex can give me happiness. I only know that i love him very much and I enjoy being with him.

Xiao Long Nu SG

wat comes to ur mind?
elope or divorce? Shocked

luvofmine SG

Hi...
i really hope that u will sort out your feelings ASAP before making any decision because i think that the emotions u are feeling towards ur ex may be because of the so-called "beauty of regrets" (Yi2 Han4 Mei3). or maybe it's due to ur disillusion as u've just got married and everything.

but think about it carefully. u wouldn't want to hurt the person who loves u (ur husband) and end up with nothing in the end.(which is highly possible)

if u ask me, i'll say let it go...let your relationship with ur ex be beautiful memories...now,please try to keep ur committment to your marriage ( i know u love ur husband) and make it work..

Devil1976 SG

That's because I WAS a SCIENCE student in school before I stepped into the society...? Mr. Green

Devil1976 SG

Reminds me of the show 'Unfaithful'..... Rolling Eyes

xavier1979 SG

Agreed. Cool

TZR SG

once u r married and commited in this relationship, stick to it wholeheartedly, if not, u will not only hurt ur present husband deep, but ur consequences will be messed up too..

i think u need to talk to someone, maybe ur good friend or what about this. Make up ur mind and commit to your husband... no matter u miss ur ex or what, u mustn't forget, u're already married to someone, and has made a vow to love him.

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