Dear XinYi,
Its interesting to know that so many guys are wooing your friend at
the same time. What you pointed out about her not knowing what you
wants in a boyfriend and about her liking the 4 different guys
because of different things like "humour" and such does bring her
heart to light.
What you need to advise her is that so far, from what she's told
you about the 4 guys, she has only highlighted their PERSONALITY.
This is a major problem. Many teens today look out for PERSONALITY
in their ideal partner. However for a lasting relationship, it is
not PERSONALITY but CHARACTER that counts. Personality can change
and if you fall in love with the personality of someone then you
will fall out of love as soon as this personality trait
decreases.
Let me give you an example:
Your friend likes Guy B because he is humourous. That's good. But
she likes his personality. So the moment she finds he becomes too
serious OR when she finds that his chracter is of someone who is
insensitive then she will jump the ship and find another captain.
Ships-a-hoy!
Advise your friend to plan out carefully the CHRACTER of the person
she is looking for. Also, because she is a soft person, she needs
to carefully asses if the guys like her for that about her. Some
guys will chase ANY girl who seems soft because they perfer those
TYPE (personality again) of girls.
In closing, the character of your friend's boyfriend will in turn
shape her chracter as well. Iron sharpens iron.
Hope this helps. Stay cool n funky!
Daniel