*re-charging battery*
*prepares for long long speech*
ok, let's start *lets go long breath of air* hmmzz....rem da
chinese idiom "pang guan zhe qing, dang ju zhe mi"? yep, tt's
exactly da case tt's happening now lo......me watch a lotta tv one
ma (tt's how i noe u're actually pressurized), reading loadsa mag
oso helps lo...newae, it's just plain coz i'm not involved in this
marriage, tt's y i'm able to put myself in both ur shoes, and
experience and learn for myself wat u pple are going thru' lo...da
stress level is quite high when u really come to think bout it
lo.....scares me even thou' i'm an outsider...
anyway, most important thing i have to say to u hor, is that
"marriage is b/w the two of u". not tt u haven't realised or wat,
just tt mebbe in black n white easier to understand. hee~ <--
crap...newae, yar, such problems u really have to tok it out b/w
the two of u n try to solve.....get her to sit down n face the
music, yet, do it the soft way, by showing her u really really care
and is bery concerned bout her and the problems tt u two are facing
lo...let her know tt by talking it out, althou' it may not solve
the problem, but u'll understand more bout each other.....talking
it out will let the two of u actually understand wat each other is
going thru'.....and most importantly, i'm quite sure it'll make u
love her more, and her love u more.....coz as i've said, by talking
bout the worries, it actually shows tt u care bout each other a
whole lot, and u really wanna make the marriage b/w e two of u work
lo....=))
understand now?? =) this period hor, sensitive n vulnerable
stressful period lo...cannot be harsh to her hor...wait she run
away......must treat her with ultra-sensitivity lo.....tt's how i
feel la...
newae, i m aware of ur complaints of her not being sensitive to ur
needs lo....but realise tt althou' this is da 21st century, women
are still every bit as vulnerable as they are when they come to
such major decisions which will affect their whole life. not tt
guys are not vulnerable at this point lo, but like the bible says,
a woman is made up of a part of man's ribs. she needs alotta moral
support now lo....u noe, u're better off than her in the sense tt u
have u. =) u are actually able to tell us how u feel, ur problems,
ur worriez, whereas, she may not have such kinda moral support.
she's looking for the support from u, her future husband, her other
half. we are here for u all the time, but for her, do u noe if she
has like ne chummies whom she can really talk bout these thingies
to??? =)
well, bear has actually talked bout the she not understanding, n
she sayign u not understanding, and tt merry-go-round thingy
lo...dun think there's nething tt bear left out on tt. =) agree
with him...since u are of the stronger sex (sorry la, no purposeful
discrimination here lo....but seems to me like she's really really
very very cui ruo now lo...so u must be strong for her
understand???), u qian jiu her abit lo......(me abit straight hor,
for the next line) if ni lian zhe me xiao xiao de wen ti dou jie
jue bu liaoz, den how's ur marriage going to last??? <-- really
sorry for saying such harsh words to u lo....
btw, i dun think she's hurting u on purpose by avoiding the
problems lo....just plain afraid of facing them as she's at a lost
as to wat to do.....dun dare to face them, so choose to run away,
to avoid lo....she avoiding the problem not u lo. rem
tt.....=)
lastly, if u have ne difficulties rite, dun hesitate to come to us
lo. =) u noe tt ur gang of chummies here will always be there to
give u constant support, and to help u thru'out rite? =)
gd luck hor........oh ya, last advice lo....leng3 jing4 de4 qu4 si1
kao3....bie2 wei4 le4 yi4 shi2 zhi1 qi4 er2 nong4 qiao2 fan3
zhuo1...
