DiLeMmA iN LoVe

last SG · 2001-01-30T00:29:00+00:00

babyacid.... i think some of us here may have similar cases lo. thou' not similar in the sense of someone taking up old habit tt they got rid of coz of u, bu...

Babyacid SG

hmmz.. though i say mi thin skinned and stuffs, i've been a socail butterfly and it wasn't hard for mi to knoe frenz... in fact, it's harder to stop mi from knowing frenz all around ( as quoting my friends )... though i have a wide circle of frenz and have, well, quite a lot of choices.. maybe it's bcoz of mi outgoing nature tat's why tend to attract more attention to myself.. but guess chemistry doesn't cum in tat easily... i hafta admit i have crushes veri easily.. but consequently, i'll quickly dismiss the liking for infatuation.. dun worry, i'm not robbing myself from possible chances but these r definitely those that i knoe won't result in anything ( tho no one know the future, somehow some people r juz so not meant to b... u knoe u knoe )...

but somehow, i realised i've changed quite a bit.. when in college, i practically knoe the whole skool, students, teachers, bk shop auntie and uncle, canteen stallholders, admin, comp lab and science lab technicians, cleaners.. everyone.. but realsie that nowadays i've simmer down a lot, as in the sense the enthusiasm in socialising all around... in fact, i've turned rather.. erm.. introvert ( too strong a word lahz ).. erm... more keeping to myself and not as bubbly as before... and the reason might b tat i'm rather yself enclosing into mi circle of frenz so as to limit myself from.. erm.. giving others the wrong impression.. i've been told that i'm often too overly concerned fro a person ( tink mi too KPO ) and i often give people the impression that u koe.. i like them and stuffs... and bcoz of such concern which i meant on a friendly term, they'll start to.. u knoe..

maybe i should b more " cold " but i can't help it lehz... i've lessen a lot liaoz but thenz... howhowhow???

Don SG

Hmm.....being hovering around my final year project, so did not chip in for a discussion these few days. Nevertheless, I do notice something in well, girls, they claimed something but heart or rather mind say another.

"I don't want to give blar blar blar a wrong impression"

Let mind control emotions and not emotions controlling mind. Want to have a clean break of things that you think you have decided, JUST DO IT! Nike slogan. Never "tuo ni dai shui" Going out also mean something, please I hope that guy, if he ever have that impression, better not say he is a guy, throw guys' face on this earth!

p/s: What is love, 10 years down the road, one will surely exclaimed,"What the f*** am I wasting my youth just like that on L*V*E?"
Should have done more meaningful things during my youth day. Play Hard, Study Harder, that's make a memorable youthhood.

Don SG

Errmm....just to add on a little, that's my personal point of view hor, never insist anyone on following, ok? Thanks for reading the part II of my reply! A million thanks

Yours sincerely,
Don

t|rEd SG

eh......acid ah, nvm la...
u dun remind me, sometimes mebbe i'll remember lo.....so it doesn't really make ne difference. =)

glad to know so many people actually posted to help u. =)

Dreamlord SG

nah .. the more you force yourself to be introverted, the more you`ll feel depressed. You gotta be yourself, cheerful, bubbly, optimistic, both inside and outside.

anyhow, the more friends you have, the more likely you`ll meet someone you like .. well, also the more people who are interested in you, but whom you are not interested in.

if it gets too difficult, just tell the guy you`ve decided to turn lesbian, if you really don`t want to see him again.

Babyacid SG

tho this is creating quite a headache for mi, i dun wan things to go into the extent tat i haf to lie to him.. despite mi wishing for the thing to b solved as soon as possible, i believe one lie always causes more lies to b said to cover up that one... tho it's temporary relief on mi side, things might hurt more in the long run, for both him and mi lohz....

i wish for things to b solved peacefully, as in the sense both sides will b satisfied wif the ending.. tho i tink in this case, ti is quite impossible... but surely there's alternatives apart from lying rite?

Babyacid SG

well, maybe it was reallie wrong of mi to go out wif him, coz might b giving him the wrong impression.. but i din ask him out.. we hapen to bump into each other.. i rejected him but he insisted... maybe i shoudl have been more persistent.. *sighz*

but wat i dun reallie undersatdn is the part u mentioned about wat girls claim one thing and their mind is tinking otherwise.. in my interpretation, i see it as tho i say i wanna reject him, i'm still leading him on~ tho it may seem that i'm being self-protective here. i guess i hafta clear things up a bit... tho it might b wrong to go out wif him on tat day ( it was not pre-planned!!! ), i have neva attempt to let him possess the slightest bit of hope in both of us... in fact, i often take on the cruel part and be the baddie... telling him to gif up hope, telling him it's impossible.. teeling him we haf no future etc~~~ maybe u and i look from diff perspective tat's why u came to tat conclusion.. i wouldn't knoe~

Dreamlord SG

yep, you have to drum it into his head that its not going to happen between you and him, and that you treasure his friendship, and that you hope you can be good friends, but thats it.

anyhow, life`s only going to get better for you. hope you not depressed and frustrated anymore. dun worry about relationships, go invest your time in other stuff, maybe fun stuff like mountain climbing, go meet more friends, stay single for a while and take your time to find out what you really want.

Babyacid SG

*sighz* i told him countless times laioz... juz tat he won't listen and say that wateva i say won't b able to change his feelings... reallie stubborn guy, juz like mi.. sheesh~

nahz.. mi not the sort that will anihow tink in my freetime and suddenly jump into anything silly on impulse.. dun worry.... this thing is definitely bothering mi... but i have enough problems on hand laizo, won't create more for myself in that way... aniwae, now also found new job, gonna start soon... won't have much free time even if i wanna tink laioz... but the doubt and problem will still b there lohz...

Dreamlord SG

that`s good .. really good .. find a job, work hard, save lots and lots of money and donate to the dreamlord charity.

guys can be so thick skinned sometimes .. i mean, girls are usually worse, but then ..

really, you should save money, go on a holiday before you get in uni. Go skiing. even better, go skydiving in anzac.
and don`t forget to go shopping. and save some money for my charity.

Babyacid SG

oeioeioei~~~~

Babyacid SG

yuppos.. been keeping myself busy for the time being.. having two jobs now.. one day reallie passes by veri veri fast~~ and i'm often too tired to tink anything at night~ coz once mi on bed, mi fall asleep.. dun even remember lying down... but tat's kinda gd in a way.. keep miself occupied and stuffs... and oso earn a lot of money... hahahah... tat's a big bonus~~~!!! Very Happy

yesterdae was 15th day of cheena new yr, which is cheena v-dae~~ thn juz now took cab the taxi driver ask if i got bf anotz... then when i said no, he was kinda stunned but oso agreed that i should earn more money now.. not that i'm materialistic ( i do wanna get a thing that's veri ex tho`)... but guess slowly realising importance of money... but somehow, inside me, i feel veri hollow... i can't solely depend and rely on money right? i'm juz a mornal girl.. i oso awaits for love, longed to be love by someone whom i love.... but it doesn't seem to b the time yet huhz? guess i hafta wait till the time is right.. hopefully i will realise it when the guy and the time is right~ heez~~~

Dreamlord SG

now`s really the time to just learn about your job, go ahead and earn a little money, spend some money on yourself, and maybe do some things that you`ve never done before. go travelling, go cheonging seriously.

as for love and companionship, well, do consider getting a pet, unlike you`re allergic or for some reason strongly adverse to animals. i guess pets are so much more loyal, in a way, and they don`t talk back. they`re just as eccentric and have their own personalities.

and relationship wise, i guess that its not going to help throwing yourself into the first guy that comes along, and you think you like. it fails, and you`ll blame yourself even more. so its probably better to wait, and find someone whom you know really cares about you.

and if you`re really depressed and in need of a laugh, go watch wwf wrestling or something like that. or go shopping. every girl i know feels so much better after burning a few hundred dollars on clothes at Mango. and hush puppies shoes. and diamonds.

anyhow, you seem a lot better than before. its just a little smidgen of depression and uncertainty left. guess you`re completely fine to face the world.

Babyacid SG

hmmz.. juz quitted the other job due to some problems at work...i'm usually not the sort to quit but guess this is reallie kinda bad lohz..

yah... dun worry dun worry, i'll not jump or throw myself at any guys that come along... i long for affection but i'm not desperate..

and for cheonging and sending hundreds of dollars on stuffs, guess i'm not the typical girls u all knoe... can say mi thrifty, can say mi stingy, i somehow cannot bear to spend extravagantly on myself... ok lahz.. dun say extravagantly... even if it's stuffs that i need for myself, i'll need a couple of things to tink about it.. and i'll scold myself for buying it even though i knoe i need it.. kinda farney huhz? furthermore, i knoe i have to save up for a veri important thingy.. so maybe the spending money method won't work on me..

i beleieve for one to relax or get into good mood, there's definitely other methods right? differs from everyone, i guess... i'll b well satified if i can juz sit at the beach and sit down there and do nuthin ( like wat i always used to do during my JC life coz it's juz next to east coast )... hmmz... maybe i'll reallie do it soon, since mi new workplace got a period of time is at parkway..

anyway, i reallie appreciate your replies and yesh, u r correct, i reallie do feel much better liaoz.. no, the problem is not solved but maybe it's bcoz i said it out... i admit that i'm more of the sort that keeps everything to myself one... so i'm reallie quite surprised that i actually say out my problems in AA... guess what attracts me to this in the first place is the anoymous title that i can take on and no one will knoe.. tho i now realise i feel better when i say it out, dun tink i'll tell much of my problems out to my friend or AA... i knoe this will have a problem that i might b bottling up too much and upon exlposion, it might b more horrible than eva... but guess it's juz me.. haven't rellie cum to a stage when i'll explode and dun tink i will coz i knoe of ways to relieve myself and the consequences that will occur if i do explode... i'm an exceptionally emotional person and shows extremity in expressing my mood.. i can laugh hysterically or cry non stop at minute things... have to emphasize i cry a lot.. hiakz~ but tat realiie help a lot, at least for me..

hmmz.. tink mi swerving from the main topic... aniwae, as i was saying... reallie tank q for accompanying mi all the way till here, dreamlord and those who replied... and those who din replied but read on or juz praying silently for me.. i thank you all.. though dun tink my problem will b solved soon, guess i'm back to the usual self and learn to cope wif them silently... wateva it is, thanx to everyone~ ^0^

[This message has been edited by Babyacid (edited 10 February 2001).]

Babyacid SG

oh yah.. sorrie.. mi so loh soh.. but have another part i never reply... as for the pets part right.. trust me, if it's not for my parents who dun like animals, my house will b a big zoo laizo... i'm a big lover for animals, all kind and sorts... kinda sad that i can't keep one coz i kneo we'll becum best fo friends no matter what... but guess it's too bad.. but if there's ever a chance when i'll get to move out or if some fortunate day i will get married, i'll defnitely adopt pets.. no for the title or status but sheer love..

kekeke.. sorrie mi getting so excited but i reallie liek animals.. would have love to work in pet shop or wat.. but thenz parents dun liek... tho i knoe it's my work and not theirs.. guess i can't bring myself to defy them lohz.. guess i can juz dream on~~~

dreamlord: aiyah... c lah c lah.. now get mi tinking of the torture of cannot keep animals again... sighz~~~ i like animals.... but cannot keep.. hmmz... why nto i start another topic in AA with the title " ANIMAL LOVER CANNOT KEEP PET " ??? hahah.. kiddin~

Ande Tan SG

I love You and You love me.
You love me, and I don't love You.
I love you, and You don't love me.

Well, another typical human relationship problem. What to advice you?
Personally, I also went through the same scenario before. If you cannot rip yourself of him in your mind no matter how he reject you,and that you still have that hope of thinking one fine day, you will touch his heart of stone, then you will have to face three serious consequences. I deduce this assumption based on the fact that he already make clear to you that he don't like you.

1st Consequence:
You will drop even further into this endless love pit. Never to see the bottom. You will never see the light of your love.

2nd Consequence:
When he is with another girl, you will have to bear the pain of seeing him being so imitimate with his girlfriend. This will ache your heart more.

3rd Consequence:
When he get married with that girl, you will probably come to the end of your road..... cry....cry...cry...and probably commit suicide.

I have been through all this but is able to pcik up fast as I know it's meaningless to carry on if that person reject outright. He/She already make it so clear to you, so why waste time and energy on that person. You are totally blinded by that guy, such that you simply ignorant of what or who is around you. If you don't like J, then just be alone loh....what to do leh.
I am worst than you, I am already 24 and still a single. Rejected by so many.
Do take my advice.

[This message has been edited by Ande Tan (edited 10 February 2001).]

Dreamlord SG

if eventually, years later, you get a pet or something, let me know .. love to go pet shopping. actually more like love to play with pets. would love a jack russell, but that`s when i have my own place .. bet he would turn my place upside down .. all you need for hours of fun is a beautiful jack russell and one of those really bouncy balls.

or maybe a schnauzer .. those are pretty cute too.

ah well .. just dream that next time maybe go US or australia or somewhere, own a ranch, and can go horse riding in the evenings. that`d be fun too though.

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