Dear all,
I am facing some relationship problems and i desparately need your
advice and guidance.
I am 25 and have been with my current girlfriend who is 24 for
almost 3 years. We have been through a very rough patch about 2
years back and somehow we got through that and our love grew
stronger. The past 2 years, we were madly in love with each other.
We couldn't do without each other's company and were virtually in a
world of our own! We were totally convinced that we were made for
each other and the topic of marriage was always being brought
up.
Then about 3 or 4 months back, our relationship started cooling
off. She started to mature, and with that she begin to realise that
there are other aspects of life. She began focusing more on her
family, her friends and herself. There is nothing wrong with that
except that me being so used to being her focus in life, i couldn't
adjust initially. The problem was that i didn't realise the change
initally and couldn't adjust fast enough, and we kind of grew
apart. Her affection towards me started to fluctuate, sometimes
cold, sometimes she treats me like any other friend. Suddenly she
no longer wants to spend as much time with me and she doesn't seem
happy around me. It seems that she had lost her interest in me. The
passion she had for me fizzled off.
I concede that my behavior had contributed towards this change. I
can be petty, i always give her a 'black' face when she doesn't do
things the way i like. I don't appreciate the little things that
she has done for me like cooking a meal for me, waiting for me
after my classes despite the boredom etc. I have realised this and
i am starting to change.
I love her deeply, and i know that she is the one for me. I may not
be perfect but my love for her is genuine and sincere. I have been
faithful and extremely committed to her.
Last night, we had a lengthy heart-to-heart talk and she
acknowledged that i am the best boyfriend that she had had. She
also knows my dedication and love towards her. Despite that, with
the maturing of her thoughts, she says she is no longer sure of her
feelings for me. She also mentioned that one of the reasons is that
she is starting to find our relationship too routine i.e Monday
meet up do this, Tuesday do this, Wednesday wait for my class to
finish etc etc.
I have been trying the last month everything to fix this problem,
to make her love me again and i failed. I needed advice on what can
i do to win back her affection? I cannot just let this relationship
go down the drain............
