Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Why put this in Bar? Next time you can post it in
Aunt Agony Section instead. (Heng, saw this in Top 50 topic)
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First lesson you ought to realise - never take relationship for
granted. How the future is like, will be shaped by the past. Tree
can't grow properly if the stems has no room to grow and expand,
instead it squeeze whichever way it could to take up for it.
This degenerate a relationship.
You made three common mistakes:
I) Not showing appreciation of affection. This is critical
especially if your girlfriend is Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces. One
thing about long term relationship is that - the longer you lead
them, such [b]personal appreciation, mushy talks, mini non-sexual
intimacy has to double in frequency.
II) Long term relationship is at great risk of a routine
relationship. To break routine cycle, learn this: if you
can't make everyday a different thing, avoid making everyday the
same.
III) You want a invulnerable relationship, with love itself, it is
not sufficient. You can't run away from effort. Man has this
tendency to slack within the relationship after having them a long
period of time. Break that tendency and love well everyday.
Love is expressive - SHOW and BE KNOWN and not keep mum and
remain passive.
Learn to see that relationship is especially vulnerable when the
past screwed the future. See! you are worried now.
She allows a soul talk with you and the outcome turn out to be
rather positive. At least she is willing to speak and she is
willing to share what's going on with the relationship. There may
be other factors going against you - but that shouldn't be our
primary concern now.
I suggest if possible, take a break and go overseas holiday for say
3 days. Work stress and everything else can hinder your objective.
Dump everything and enjoy your days somewhere nearby if cash is a
problem. With only the two of you - let your behavior speaks for
themselves. Do the three pointers I bold above, from there, you can
slowly work your way up.
P.S: Don't be unnatural. Be yourself, but show your willingness to
fork and give to this relationship. Don't expect - only give.
Rewards? Talk later. 
Cheers [/b]
Hi, your advice is indeed good. I have been doing whatever you
have said. I am trying to 'give' and not expect any rewards. But
the fact is that without any visible results or improvement, i am
becoming disheartened and slowly losing the will to carry on.
This is really tough!
