women who love their men often suffer in silence.
victims? yes they are! in order to keep a r/s, i've seen some
extremes gal are willing to go. all these just so the men is happy.
but are they? NO, they ask for more and do things that does
injustice to the love these women give. these women are willing to
be 'victims' in hope the men of their life is happy and well, are
they really victims then? i may agree they are silly but never
victims. it takes a lot of selfless-ness and love to sacrific the
way they did.
Isn't that the classic victim mentality? In the end it still
takes two hands to clap. If abused ladies insist on staying in
abusive relationships with half-witted neandertals because they
want their partner to be happy, then it's their funeral and choice
isn't it?
If it's their sacrifice is so selfless and loving, then why on
earth are you complaining about it? After all, there are plenty of
exit routes from such a situtation and they by personal choice, are
choosing to stay in it. This is hardly selfless love I'm afraid, it
is a show of emotional dependancy, disfunction and depravity on the
girls' part to stay in such a destructive relationship.
What did they expect? That such a person will treat them better
with time? I'm afraid this is the real world. If you cannot take
responsibility for your own situtation, or worse, decide to stay in
their mire when they can jolly well escape, it's their own fault as
much as it is their abusive partner.
What's more tragic is that there are plenty of gentlemen out there
who know how to honour their partners that can treat these girls
better but they are being demonized because of their neandertal
counterparts.
As long as you refuse to take responsibility and actions for your
situtation and yet insist that things change for you, don't expect
much sympaty to your opinions, for they are clearly biased and
illogical, based more on emotions then logic.
Yep, the true victim mentality.
Isn't that great? The perfect solution then? The problem with
plenty of girls is that they go into a relationship with a shifty
character with all heart and no brains, take no measures to guard
themselves, and then blame everything when things fall apart.
Why would a girl get into a relationship with a guy that does not
honor her? And worse, why on earth would she want to stay in one
when it is obvious that the person treats her no more then a
plaything? There is no emotional bond or relationship, it is an
unhealthy emotional dependancy.
When you can't quit smoking just by blaming the sticks, citing
great moral ideas and systems and then take no action
yourself.
i never said all guys are against me. even if they are i don't
care. i am not bothered with scum.
That's your problem you see. By refusing to see things as they
really are, and keep shooting from your own biased point of view,
you will never see the truth and hence hit the wrong people. For
all your screaming, I doubt you served anything other then to tell
a S.O.B.S of an emotionally damaged, dependent lady who blames
everything but herself.
Plenty of solutions are already there, and as any social worker can
tell you, mindlessly screaming nonsense about men is hardly one of
them. If you want to contuine to get burned by fire by standing
close to it citing tales of selfless love ironically at the same
time hurling abuse at the very thing you are supposed to "love"
selflessly, then be my guest.
[quote]a gentleman will automatically treat a lady well and
with respect. if there are such gentlemen around then there will be
no need for screamings and aunt agnoys.Oh, so what are you
implying exactly? That they do not exist?
Let me put your amazingly flawed logic to the test:
A good doctor will automatically treat a patient well and heal him.
If there were such doctors around then there will be nobody dying
and suffering.
Nuff said. 
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