He is not trying to fake his way out. I know him well, and this
is affecting him very badly.
If he takes part time courses, he needs 8-5. because if his
lesson finishes, and he goes back to camp, they don't have
resources like internet.. etc for him to do his projects and
research.
I know lots of guys go through it too.. but some people really
can't handle it. I think he's let it get to him too much, thus
sinking into depression. I know for a fact he can handle tough
situations (eg:work), but this is just too much of a delay.
And there's just so many factors for his study, if he starts
studying now, he can save like almost 50k and complete half of it.
If he doesn't, he will have to wait till ORD, by then, he'll be so
old if he goes overseas to study. And every plan that he's had will
be delayed.
It just hurts to see him like this.
still, the question is unanswered .... what makes him special ?
... what entitles him to 8 - 5 ? ..... because his ah gong is LKY ?
... because he's some sort of white horse ? ... old ? ... sure,
most of us men started university at a time our female peers were
about to graduate, or careers at a time when ladies (and foreign
talents !) have already climbed over our heads on the career ladder
.... we had to suck it up too ....
too much of a delay ? .... you want to hear what we poly chaps
had to go through in 2.5 G army ? ... when NS was 2.5 years long ?
..... between the start of poly and end of secondary school, that
was half a year gone, and between NS, and the start of university
term, that's on average another half year gone too .... we were
THREE years late ... we entered unis at a time when some people our
age have already worn the mortar cap ... and graduate with only a
bachelors at a time when others were already in grad school .... so
how ? ...
and you have not seen nothing yet ... have you come across cases
of fellows whose mother was in ill health, father was in jail,
younger son's only 14 and the son got drafted into a vocation like
the commandos ? ... Or men who were already working outside,
supporting their families, because their salaries would make a real
difference to 5 mouths living in a one room flat ! .... I
have ! these were all real cases i have seen, these men had an even
more immediate pressing need than your boyfriend, these men had to
feed and support their families ! None of these men got, or even
ASKED FOR, an 8 to 5 ..... real men ? ... I think those fellows
fits ... at least they didn't get depressed over that little "bump"
in their lives called NS ...
so ask your "boyfriend" to wake up his idea .... the world
doesn't revolve around him. Whining about his "lot" or getting
depressed about it is not going to help. And really, it really says
a lot about the character and intestinal fortitude (or the lack of
it), in a man .....
are you sure you're getting a real man as a boyfriend ? ...
