I appreciate some of your answers, because some of you are
really giving me advice.
Like I said, I didn't post here to pick a fight, but some of you
are really harsh in your words.
As some of you have said, some people may really be subject to
extreme stress. And for the record, my boyfriend is not trying to
fake his way out, ''chao keng'', nor does he think the army is his
dad's, grandfather's, along those lines.. etc.
I'm just saying that because the army is taking and delaying a
chunk of his life, (eg: study (forking out another 50k is really a
huge sum), and by getting 8-5, at least after he finishes his
class, he gets to go home and do his work, research etc, whereas if
he goes back to camp, no internet etc, he can't do any of it.
Therefore, his grades will suffer). Once he does his course here,
he can go overseas and fully complete it. Without this course, he
has to go overseas and do a bridging, which costs about 50k, and on
top of that, extra fees to finish degree.
As for his knee injury, I think its pretty serious because it
has to do with the cartilage. Basically, most of the cartilage in
the knee has eroded and torn.
We already had plans to go overseas once he ORDs, if 8-5 doesn't
happen, all our plans will just be wasted.
I guess as much as I say this, most of you will still think..
he's acting childish, only want to "chao keng" etc. I know loads of
guys have gone through this, survived etc and well done! I'm not
saying he's special and deserves special entitlements.
But I can honestly say I've never seen him like this. I did my
homework, and how he's acting and behaving, are really signs of
depression.
And hey, everyone has their own limits, strengths and weaknesses
right? If someone's state of mind suffers because he takes it
differently from the majority, do we really have to insult, say
hurtful stuff?
All I was asking for was advice. Good advice. Not: "Leave him,
he's a girl. Gu niang. Get another bf." I just wanted to know if he
really gets into full depression, will the army think he's lying
because so far they've been anything but sympathetic. There's
nothing I can do except be there for him and support him. All I'm
asking for is advice that maybe helpful.
Other than that.. thanks to those who have been nice and
understanding so far.
hope u can ans tis question: u tink ur bf is the only 1 in whole
army who wan to study??? if every1 wans to study then who
else will be doing the other vocations?
u r only encouraging ur bf to b a wimp/selfish by siding
him...