I appreciate some of your answers, because some of you are
really giving me advice.
Like I said, I didn't post here to pick a fight, but some of you
are really harsh in your words.
As some of you have said, some people may really be subject to
extreme stress. And for the record, my boyfriend is not trying to
fake his way out, ''chao keng'', nor does he think the army is his
dad's, grandfather's, along those lines.. etc.
I'm just saying that because the army is taking and delaying a
chunk of his life, (eg: study (forking out another 50k is really a
huge sum), and by getting 8-5, at least after he finishes his
class, he gets to go home and do his work, research etc, whereas if
he goes back to camp, no internet etc, he can't do any of it.
Therefore, his grades will suffer). Once he does his course here,
he can go overseas and fully complete it. Without this course, he
has to go overseas and do a bridging, which costs about 50k, and on
top of that, extra fees to finish degree.
As for his knee injury, I think its pretty serious because it
has to do with the cartilage. Basically, most of the cartilage in
the knee has eroded and torn.
We already had plans to go overseas once he ORDs, if 8-5 doesn't
happen, all our plans will just be wasted.
I guess as much as I say this, most of you will still think..
he's acting childish, only want to "chao keng" etc. I know loads of
guys have gone through this, survived etc and well done! I'm not
saying he's special and deserves special entitlements.
But I can honestly say I've never seen him like this. I did my
homework, and how he's acting and behaving, are really signs of
depression.
And hey, everyone has their own limits, strengths and weaknesses
right? If someone's state of mind suffers because he takes it
differently from the majority, do we really have to insult, say
hurtful stuff?
All I was asking for was advice. Good advice. Not: "Leave him,
he's a girl. Gu niang. Get another bf." I just wanted to know if he
really gets into full depression, will the army think he's lying
because so far they've been anything but sympathetic. There's
nothing I can do except be there for him and support him. All I'm
asking for is advice that maybe helpful.
Other than that.. thanks to those who have been nice and
understanding so far.
I see you are actually seeking affirmation ... not advice
....
are you as selfish as your boyfriend ? ... can you not see that
this is a neccessity which ALL MEN have to go through ? ... We ALL
had dreams and plans too .... We ALL had to put our future on hold
to serve our NS as well .... I ask again ... what makes him ... or
you ... special ? ... because he gets into a "depression" more
easily than others ? .... I can sort of see why the two of you are
together ....
if you haven't realized it by now, the common thread that runs
through most of the replies here, is that NS is an obligation that
he CANNOT SHRINK FROM ... it's not something you can pick and
choose your liking about, it's not like choosing hotel rooms, or a
job !
maybe as a girl, you're not subjected to this NS obligation
before, so you think .. Oh, as long as I come up with enough
reasons, enough excuses, badger enough people, things will go my
way ? .....
why don't you ask your boyfriend to come and take a look at some
of the replies here ... ?
