Question for the Gals

choco B SG

I read that cohabiting does not give any higher chance of subsequent marriage working out.

True, it will be interesting to know how staying together feels like and reaching a deeper level of understanding. But it is hardly any guarantee nor prediction for a successful marriage.

For me, I'd do it just because it's great fun Smile

_attitude_ SG

hahaha.. sounds like a r/s is some sort of product .. have the trail period and like the money back grantee..haha

Gedanken SG

No it's not - that was just a turn of phrase. The point is that you may as well work out as much as you can before making the big move.

I've had it go pretty badly wrong on me before, and it was due to unforseen circumstances beyond our control. The good thing is that we found out in time and took a break, and now we're good friends.

Inzaghi SG

wah..can i apply????.... Laughing

choco B SG

Hiak hiak staying with me is not fun for you leeeh

I belly hate housework. Razz

bjork SG

inz rich man he can hire maid for u. Mr. Green

Inzaghi SG

dun do housework?..how can?... Evil or Very Mad

Inzaghi SG

alamak...since when me is rich..u should know well i m a poor man.. Neutral

bjork SG

ji humble...

X-men SG

I am for co-habitation too.

What I feel is that as long as both parties are comfortable with the idea. why not.

stay together will let you knw the person much better than meeting on weekends only .... or even everyday.

All his/her bad habbits might just surface at home. Twisted Evil

Just my 2 cents (the only amount I'm left with Crying or Very sad )

Inzaghi SG

its a fact mah....moreover, i need to save up for my 'wife'.. Mr. Green

choco B SG

But but... housework will spoil my nails *blink blink*

Can lah. Get part-time cleaner. Very Happy v

Inzaghi SG

also can...can also choose to stay at a smaller house lor..last sat i went to my fren hm, 3RM..just renovated...damn stylo..me drool man!!..

choco B SG

Indeed... size of house should be just right for the people staying there, too big is a waste. Any house if done up nicely also very cheo wan!

How much he/she spend on renovations?

Inzaghi SG

ya man!!..his conception very near to my ideal bachelor living leh...he said ard 30K (everything) which is also well below my budget.. Mr. Green

choco B SG

That's a good price.

My friend's exec apartment renovation cost $40 K, but not alot of stuff done up... just wardrobe, kitchen... and not very nice somemore Confused

Inzaghi SG

exec apt is big place mah, of cos cost much much more lor, if not u can ask beanie......

for a 3RM, think 30K can do a posh one liao...my budget is ard 50K..but only if i can save up tat much when i turn 35..haha

sillyme SG

ya lor.. cohabit doesn't guarantee anything..

even with products, guarantee runs out Mr. Green

most importantly, both parties should have same concept of marriage.. if it's just two persons staying together.. by all means Smile (shall stop at this point) *full stop*

True_Xerion SG

Speaking from a guy's point of view, i'm with living together b4 committing further, does not necessarily mean co-habiting yet too. Take it gradual maybe spend a day or a few days at a stretch staying with him/her b4 deciding to stay together and finally commit lor. U'd be surprised to see a few previously unknown habits, traits appear.

Also yeah not alot of guys stay on their own in sg, and it seems a fair percentage of those who do also reside in sgforums lol, including urs truly! Very Happy

KittynMeow SG

I'm just wondering what then will that make of the marriage??

jili is right that it depends on the concept of marriage between the 2 people involved....

marriage is not just abt two people who have been together long enough and decided to move in together legally...
it also means two people love each other and decided to "live" with each other "till death do us part"... just that word "live" itself means that marriage is not just a word or a title. It is the relationship itself... that the relationship has to continue growing, 2 people have to continue to love and forgive.. that they can see each other's flaws and still love them....

if cohabit is like trying the product, does that mean no matter how much you love your partner, if he/she cannot change a bad habit (like squeezing toothpaste from the middle rather than the end) means you no longer want to be with him/her??

Neutral Neutral

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