i prefer it's best to use the heart/mind to take refuge.
心皈依(不是行式皈依).
our MCK and even Nathan president of SG also know 佛法重实质,不重形式.
Buddhism stress on the actual doing than the apparent gesture. not
that gesture is no good, they are good in terms of displining
oneself.
This was said by the Blessed One, said by the Arahant, so I have
heard: "Even if a monk, taking hold of my outer cloak, were to
follow right behind me, placing his feet in my footsteps, yet if he
were to be greedy for sensual pleasures, strong in his passions,
malevolent in mind, corrupt in his resolves, his mindfulness
muddled, unalert, uncentered, his mind scattered, & his
faculties uncontrolled, then he would be far from me, and I from
him. Why is that? Because he does not see the Dhamma. Not seeing
the Dhamma, he does not see me.
"But
even if a monk were to live one hundred leagues away, yet if he
were to have no greed for sensual objects, were not strong in his
passions, not malevolent in mind, uncorrupt in his resolves, his
mindfulness established, alert, centered, his mind at singleness,
& his faculties well-restrained, then he would be near to me,
and I to him. Why is that? Because he sees the Dhamma. Seeing the
Dhamma, he sees me."
Though following right
behind,
full of desire, vexation:
see
how far he is! —
the
perturbed
from the unperturbed,
the
bound
from the Unbound,
the
greedy one
from the one with no greed.
But
the wise person who, through
direct knowledge of Dhamma,
gnosis of Dhamma,
grows still &
unperturbed
like
a lake unruffled by wind:
see
how close he is! —
the
unperturbed to the unperturbed,
the
Unbound to the Unbound,
the
greedless one
to
the one with no greed.
Itivuttaka's
Sanghaṭikaṇṇa Sutta. Scroll down to
Sutta 92
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/kn/iti/iti.3.050-099.than.html
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