how to get rid of lust

last SG · 2007-10-01T17:14:26+00:00

As said above if you want to continue discussing pls create your own topic.

An Eternal Now SG

Yes, if you are affected by japanese manga and anime that has sexual contents then you should avoid them.

You may also want to refer to a previous thread on lust which I replied thus:

How do i overcome 'lust' thoughts?:

How come are you having these lustful thoughts? You should do some inquiry... That's what my taiwanese dharma teacher did to someone who asked him about how to deal with lust.. find out what is the source of these matters. Do you watch sexually suggestive women on the net..? Do you have posters of pretty ladies all over your room? And many other possible factors....

One suggestion he gave was to tear down all the pictures of the skimpily dressed ladies in your room, and replace them with all the pictures of Buddhas and Bodhisattvas... my teacher said, confirm you won't get excited! Mr. Green Cos they're all so holy and 'zhuang1 yan2' everywhere you look.. hehe..

Here's also some suggestions from my Master's book:

An Eternal Now SG

Bad logic...

An Eternal Now SG

This is not true. Sitting meditation is helpful but is not the only practise or dharma door. But to develope strong and stable samadhi and also wisdom it is quite important. And even meditation has many kinds, so it depends.

An Eternal Now SG

BTW at a higher level, since you requested someone to write something on how to go to the next level and be completely free from such thoughts...

This is actually very simple. It is actually quite effortless as long as you maintain an awareness that constantly lets go -- all phenomena simply self-liberates (which means the thought and experience liberates by itself because it is impermanent!), nothing stays... nothing leaves a trace. As my taiwanese teacher said... don't resist or reject thoughts, the more you try to find ways to suppress your thoughts or reject them the worse it becomes.. instead don't even treat your thoughts as if they are events happening (it is as if nothing has happened). Not even thoughts of sexual lust.. Perhaps that is why AndrewPKYap said "The more you try to get rid of lust, the more you affirm its existence when the reality is that lust does not exist."

So there is no need to condemn your thoughts or resist them, if you know how to practise this. It is much more direct. However if you have difficulty practising this, you may try the methods I have posted above in the previous post.

Please read http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/thai/kee/inward.html -- the part on Aware Right at Awareness, November 3, 1975 by Upasika Kee Nanayon.

And as for the PM you sent me, please read this article written by my local dharma teacher, hope it helps Smile Constantly mindful, constantly letting go of the 3 minds and the 4 forms...

([1] The Three Minds: (i) the past is gone and cannot be grasped. (ii) After this moment, the present becomes past and also cannot be grasped. (iii) The future is not here yet and therefore cannot be grasped too.

[2] The four forms: Form - Characteristics; (i) Everybody has an ego, this is the ego- form. (ii) When we see another person, we perceive the human-form. (iii) When thoughts arise in our mind, we perceive the sentient being-form. (iv) The continuity of these thoughts through time gives rise to the time-form.)

goldevil SG

it appears than among many expired topics , there are many ppl facing similar situations .

lust is indeed a common problem same as gossip among women .

Embarassed

any ideas how to stop gossip , my grandma can talk non stop for hours .

i mean they talked bad abt ppl but when when ppl talked bad abt her , she angry .

i think gossip mongers r selfish .

so old still want gossip ......

assfer SG

Goldevil, you are right. We shouldn't gossip so that we can get rid of false ego. In order to achieve that, we should suffer been criticised and accept it without false ego. Wink

Spnw07 SG

Hey, same here. I think I will be seeking help soon for sexual addiction, not joking okay.

Super difficult to fight. The general advice from most Sangha members would be to physically stay away, in good haste, when you find yourself in situations which are obvious in sexual intent and/or might lead you to commit sexual misconduct.

I generally try to avoid romantic dramas and sexually suggestive reading or viewing materials. However, I find myself going back to them out of the need for excitement or to satisfy my curiosity about the three letter word.

Hope one day all will be able to keep to the precept of 'avoid all sexual misconduct' as taught by Buddha.

May the teachings of the Buddha be our eternal guide and the pure spiritual energy of empowerment in his vows be a source of guiding and cleansing energy transmitted into the depths of our consciousness.

Amituofo. (How I wish this forum can allow the proper typing and viewing of Chinese characters)

Herzog_Zwei SG

There’s no way that you can get rid of lust in all totality unless you remove your brains or have illness or injury concerning the sexual portion of your brain.

An Eternal Now SG

It is possible, as Thusness told me days ago through the realisation of non-duality and the stabilisation of the realisation especially after the mirror bright sensation through impersonality one is able to overcome sexual desires. This is also being experienced by Longchen who recently wrote about it along with other karmic imprints like fear and anger.

Also, according to Buddhism those who reach Anagami and above will be able to overcome it.

AndrewPKYap SG

Don’t imagine that you are a good person just because you get rid of lust…

Herzog_Zwei SG

By which time, the person practicing is long dead which of course, he won't lust any more.

An Eternal Now SG

Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:

By which time, the person practicing is long dead which of course

Since there are countless LIVING enlightened beings, and people who have attained enlightenment WHILE living (it couldnt be otherwise), that means it is possible and will take far less time than you think.

Depending on the sharpness of individual faculty and wisdom roots, some people attain awakening instantaneously upon hearing certain words of dharma like 6th Patriarch Hui Neng as well as the ancient disciples of Buddha like Shariputra, Bahiya, etc etc as well as many modern cases (my Master attained enlightenment at age 12 when being trapped in a snow mountain in a life and death situation), some in days (my Taiwanese teacher attained enlightenment within days of meeting my Master), some in months and years. If you diligently practise it will not take more than a few years, and the Buddha said that through practising the 4 foundations of mindfulness, some for weeks, or for months, up till a period of 7 years, one will attain anagami, arhat, etc.

he won't lust any more.

Not as you might think.

Herzog_Zwei SG

Please count them out to me. I don't think there are many either.

An Eternal Now SG

In Buddha's lifetime, it is recorded in the sutras that there were thousands of Arhats, sometimes 1250 Arhats together attending one single session of dharma discourse. And definitely much much more Anagamis, Once returners, Stream enterers.

Today, there are also lots and lots of enlightened people around the world.

In sgforums there's almost 10 who have transcendental insights and experience. I would prefer not to name them here but people who frequent this forum may know who they are.

Herzog_Zwei SG

I can easily get more than that number of people who are not enlightened, so numbers mean nothing.

An Eternal Now SG

Of course, cos first of all, most of the people in the world are not Buddhists and have neither bothered to find out about Buddhism, secondly, though a minority of humanity in the world is Buddhists (around 5% by statistics), most of them are simply self-proclaimed buddhists with little knowledge and maybe less than 1% are truly practicing nor have adequate and true understanding of the teachings.

What I am talking about is those who are truly practising and have correctly understood and grasped the essence of the dharma and practise, these people are likely to attain enlightenment.

Hellraiza SG

i know the perfect solution to lust. It's called.....

wanking. Laughing

Herzog_Zwei SG

They mostly likely not to attain enlightenment or any thing else in this lifetime or another few million kalpas or eternity for that matter because there's nothing to grasp.

An Eternal Now SG

I never said they'll attain anything.

I said they will see, i.e have insights, a quantum leap of perception, into the nature of reality.

Nothing needs to be attained because his Buddha Nature is already complete, never improves in enlightenment, never decreases in ignorance.

His real nature is already as it is, nothing needs to be attained. Nothing needs to be changed except to see reality as it is.

An Eternal Now SG

That isn't a solution because the habitual tendencies of the mind is left untreated.

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