let me say that you men are better man that i.
Especially sherling22 for actually staying with wife inorder to
raise the child.
Naturally i see complications when the child is older and when you
have "real" children of our own. Aswell as how to explain that you
are not the real father and do not want anything to do with the
real mother... and have no real reason for hanging around.... very
confusing and complicated for the child.
It is easy to accept a child if the child is conceived before the
marriage, whether the wife discloses or not... we all have pasts
and many are more colourful than others... but past is past.
I have to honestly say that there is no way i would accept a child
that is conceived as a result of an affair. I am sorry but i could
never accept being tricked into raising another mans child. And as
Elindra has stated the "mistake" is constantly there. One other
problem i see once you get past the hurt, is that the natural
father can at any time pop up and say hey i want custody of my
child.
However my most simplistic reasoning is that I, as a man can never
have children on my own with out the need for a woman. So i can not
see why i should spend my time raising another mans child.
Interesting i heard a study conducted that given same relationship
with sona and daughter, a mother is more likely to love her
daughters children more than her sons. The simplistic reasoning is
she has no doubts that the children are her daughters 9regardless
of who the father maybe). But there is always an element of doubt
with her son's childrens.