i remember there was once a very similar topic in club 30 with
very similar sentiments expressed by the same people here. rather
nostalgic... 
wish i can find what i posted originally so i dun have to repeat
all that again but i think schrodingerscat puts it pretty well
below.
when i was younger, i never relished the prospect of having a
tradition chinese wedding dinner. it seems such a waste of money n
time. now, i still dun relish it, but i'd do it for my parents and
my s.o.'s parents if they want it. and i know my parents would
definitely want it.
so what if most of the people there are virtual strangers to me?
they're all here because they're celebrating MY wedding and being
happy for ME. i know i always feel happy for the wedding couple, no
matter how boring the dinner and/or the company is. and i'd like to
think that's true of everyone, even if it may not be 100% true. but
hey, i'm idealistic, at times and so long as that makes me happy...
most importantly, i view the wedding as much my parents' as mine.
because they've worked hard bringing me up, loving me and teaching
me. when i get married, i'm sure it must be something very
significant and important to them too, as much as it is to me. why
shouldn't it be THEIR celebration too?
i'd think i'd be truly selfish if i say my wedding concerns only me
and my husband-to-be.
of course, i'm not saying those of you who don't want chinese
wedding dinners are selfish. definitely not. it really depends on
each person's individual circumstances and points of view. there's
no right or wrong. just a matter of perspective.
and so far, from what i heard of my friend's wedding dinners, seems
like most of them break even. even my friend who had 80 tables at a
5-star hotel. even managed to earn bit after paying for the hotel
AND beer from brewerkz.
hmmm... seems like i ended up saying a lot again. can't
help it. it's a topic i feel rather strongly for...
