Well, when you plan to have the wedding, you don't actually know
if your relatives WILL be generous or not. So that is a bonus after
the wedding, not a requisite of whether you should hold it or not.
it is not as if you KNOW they will be generous then you hold
it.
But it is true that yes, I guess those who are positive abt chinese
wedding dinners are probably closer to their families, relatives,
and even parents' friends so don't consider doing it as much an
ordeal compared to others. (even if we also have problems with
relatives etc too)
Anyway I know it is difficult to hold a simple wedding dinner to
compromise when parents. What I feel is not fair is to make a
decision thinking that parents have absolutely no say in it. Of
course.. (heh heh) you can ask and try to compromise and if
eventually they demand ridiculous things that is really impossible
for you to achieve... then yes, I think you just have to do enough
to make sure your heart feels good about it.
But of course, if your heart feels good about doing things your own
way without asking them.. hehehe.. well that's up to the individual
too.
