Sorree abit busy at work now to type a lengthy discussion, but
here's my reponse:
the things u mentioned for both scenarios are not mutually
exclusive. u can just up and go in a marriage just as u could in a
cohabitation, just that it's a litte more troublesome to do
so.
by the same token, there are plenty of ways to show your partner
your commitment and willingness to share joys and differences other
than having a "govt endorsed ceremony"....
don't get me wrong, i see myself signing the paper and having a
ceremony. it just doesn't rub me the right way when someone implies
that cohabitation is wrong. and even worse when the reasons they
give for the wrongness of cohabitation could well happen in a
marriage too (for example, the "leave anytime you want"
part..)
not targeting at u personally, but it's my "lifelong agenda" to
protect, if not, promote, cohabitation, whether or not it leads to
marriage.
i find absolutely nothing wrong with it.
the converse is NOT true too, i'm not a person who MUST cohabitate
in order to have a fulfilling reln, just to disclaim myself.
