Yes I think many parents think like you...
I believe ingraining self-discipline and setting ambitious goals
is still important life skills which will serve your child well
throughout his / her life, so there is still some merits for
that.
On the other hand it is also important to care for his / her
overall mental wellbeing and happiness, and that includes other
hobbies, having stable and loving family, and a balance between
work and leisure.
My suggestion :
1. get the child into a music class (piano, guitar)
2. get a pet (dog)
Good luck,
