2) There can be an enaggement ceremony after which you
call each other finacee but not married yet, by law, you are still
not legal. Agreeing to it does not mean anything.
Likewise, you can registered your marriage and yet not get any
wedding, but she is still your wife legally by law.
3) ROM and church wedding, what do you really want to do?
ROM can be different from church wedding. You see, you can
registered with ROM for marriage and not have a church wedding till
later date, or not at all but you are still legally
married.
I suggest you check with your church about your wedding date and
ask them whether they do the arrangement for you to have your
registeration at church instead of at ROM office. Many do
provide this service. If your church as a registrar that can
ordain your wedding or you can get someone who can do it for you at
your church wedding, no problem then. Do check with ROM or
your church.
4) Wedding buffet and dinner on the same day? If you
can afford both by all means, but that will cost you a bomb and not
forgetting your friends and relatives who will be giving anyg pow
and gifts. Do you really want to burden them? Besides,
what time will your buffet be? and then follow by dinner, can they
really eat?
I only had church wedding and buffet at home for relatives and
some close friends. Even church decoration was shared with
another couple who hadppened to had theirs 2 hours after
mine. They didn't mind and also due to time constraint.
Dinner was at restaurant in the evening.
5) IF you are choosing special dates especially for
chinese parents, some must be "Good" auspicous day, then you better
book way in advances, check with the restaurant. Sometimes,
the queue can be as far back as >1 yr, that's what my brother
did, what's more, restaurant impose restriction due to that very
day was very important to chinese. For me no problem, 1 yr in
advance no problem booking
