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Regardless of the type of man you are -- strong with bold opinions,
moderate with no taste for confrontation, or passive with a
gelatinous backbone -- guess what?
Unless you're made of wood, you're going to be dating, you are
going to get into arguments, and the expectation (at least from the
feminine perspective) is that you are going to lose those
arguments.
Any type of man could, at any time, find himself in any kind of an
argument. Maybe your pants were off when they really should have
been on. Perhaps you zigged when you should have zagged, or,
despite your best intentions, you simply just spoke out of
turn.
The trickiness we must deploy to save face in a fight is to always
be prepared. You wouldn't go out for a night on the town without
some cash and a pressed shirt, would you? So why would you head
into a relationship battle without your best artillery?
There are rules to follow
Nobody wants to be that guy in the corner taking a browbeating from
his best gal, especially when, whether that beaten man was wrong or
right, he could have come out unscathed. There are rules involved
in this. Pay attention.
Logic is frequently abandoned when arguing with your girlfriend for
one reason: They will not admit they are wrong. Ever. Not going to
happen -- so put it out of your head. No matter how compelling you
may be, or how wrong she might be, fair is not the name of the
game. The trick is this: proving to yourself that you're right,
while making her believe she's right as well.
Different men have different expectations about winning arguments,
but the art of war is the same. Here are a number of tricks to
ensure that you'll never lose an argument with your
girlfriend.
1- Don't raise your voice?
Regardless of the nature of your fight (your suggestion for ice
cream taken to mean you want her to fatten up, or your failure to
mention ice cream taken to mean she's too heavy already), watch
your voice. No matter what you have planned in your defense, always
speak softly. As the composed one, her anger will only need run its
course. Settle in for a long one, but remember; if she joins you on
a conversational level, you've won.
2- Be the first man to listen?
Men have a reputation for being poor listeners. Be the exception.
She wants to talk, and yell, so let her. But when it comes time for
you to cough up a defense, reiterate her points back to her to
prove you're listening to -- and understand -- what she's
saying.
If you spend your cross-examination explaining herself to her by
recapping her words, you may never actually have to ever have an
original thought. And she'll think you're the keenest listener on
the block. Once you see the look on her face as she hears you
reiterate her sentiment, you will begin to see the Matrix. Go
forth, Neo. Follow the white rabbit.
3- Stay on the subject at hand?
Whether the battle royale is about music, dinner reservations, Depp
flicks, or the State of the Union, pick your battle and fight
strong. Arguments are won or lost on the ability to prevent other
gripes from creeping into the contest at hand. When the mood is
confrontational, bring up nothing but that which you have been
called out on.
4- Admit wrong & you win?
Sometimes winning an argument is more about the aftermath than the
battle. She can never, ever win a fight if you admit you are wrong
first. Check your pride at the door. There will be tiffs in which
you won't care if you're the victor. In these instances, no matter
how much she wants to spar, lay down dead. Sometimes a nice glass
jaw in the ring will score you big sensitivity points with the
judges. The scorecards are in, and the winner, by unanimous
decision, will be you.
5- Play the emotional card?
There are times when women just want to fight because they're
feeling emotional. What we forget is that we men also want to fight
because we are emotional. It is about the release; and what we are
so ingrained to avoid, which has the same consummate effect, is
letting the emotions flow.
Fight strong, and fight with honor, Young Jedi. But do not be
afraid to act hurt by the things she says. To a woman, an
aggressive man who shows emotion in the heat of an argument is the
king of men. And you'll always win.
6- Tell her off?
Many men have stood with their hand on the little button, ready to
end life as we know it. It is where the men and boys are separated.
If winning the argument is worth destroying the relationship, or
destroying the relationship is worth winning back your life, then
fire personal insults at will. Be warned: there is no going back
after inputting this launch code. Remember that sometimes,
civilization as you know it is a tough thing to rebuild.
for argument's sake
Take all arguments with your ladies with massive grains of salt and
remember; you can always win by letting her believe what she needs
to believe. That should be clear about four seconds in.
Where we stumble is when we need to prove to ourselves that we can
win no matter the contest. Don't forget that it is in our nature to
protect what we believe. If we spent all our time getting along,
there would be no such thing as make-up sex
Takes abit of self control, tested method and proven by me
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