The Top 10 Subjects To Avoid in Early Stages of a R/S

dakkon_blackblade SG

This seems like sound advice. But I've always have problems finding topics to talk about with girls. What sort of things do girls like their guys to chat with them about?

browniebaobao SG

having read ur posts...

i ask u ar, if ur gf tells u that she is no longer a virgin, how would u react?

i believe u can't take it de.

browniebaobao SG

harlow dakkon~

happy cny~ how are u? Razz

it's a plus if the guy is humourous.. (note: i said humourous and not lame) but if he's not, nvm.. juz dun talk about politics or anything offensive to a girl. hmmm try not to make the girl feel that she's being interrogated or u are doing a family background check.

things i like to know from someone i like are his dreams, his interests, his hobbies etc..

but if u are really comfortable with somebody, u can talk about anything under the sun. that's wat i feel la..

dakkon_blackblade SG

Hi, bbb. Happy CNY to you too. Thanks for the reply. Unfortunately I'm not a very humorous person, so no bonus from that. I do want to talk about my dreams, interests and hobbies, but a lot of times I just feel that the other person just wouldn't understand.

I guess you are right that chemistry does count for a lot, but it seems pretty hard to find a girl who has such chemistry with me.

browniebaobao SG

hmm?

i tot u have a gf?

i think it's the opposite for me..

i want to know but they dun really wana say..

T.Ryousuke SG

Read on newspaper.

Don't ask: who just call u?

Don't compare: See ppl have a better car!.

Don't say: It's always yr fault.

Don't ask: wru, where u went last nite?.

When all this question start there is no end.

Everybody must noe wat to say and what not to say, there is a limit no matter how close both r. If the topic is not suitable just close and ban. Mr. Green

dakkon_blackblade SG

Haha...whatever gave you the impression that I am attached? Anyway, how come you are so curious to know about guys? I'd think that most girls can't really be bothered these days.

Bontakun SG

Then can I take it? Mr. Green

browniebaobao SG

will u mind?

i believe u wun take it too hard.

browniebaobao SG

u are not?

hmm... then maybe i remember wrongly.. could be someone else.

me curious?

hmmm.. maybe coz been hurt too many times before.. wana know the other gender better to prevent unnecessary damage ba.

dakkon_blackblade SG

Hhmm....seems like a sensible approach. I do that also. I'm a cautious person by nature, and I'd rather get to know a girl better before getting further with her. It's even more important for girls to do the same as they have more to lose...

Bontakun SG

If I said I dun even mind abit, then I am lying with my eyes big... Shocked

However that is no reason to condemn people who are not virgins nor should they be viewed as 'easy' in the eyes of others.

We made mistakes, we make decisions, no matter what happened as a result of our choices, we live with it and accept it as part of our lives. Everybody deserves a second chance. If we cannot give them the chance, who will?

browniebaobao SG

yalor yalor..

browniebaobao SG

im gg to raise this question that i believed many ple have raised before...

why is it that girls can dun mind their bf is not a virgin,

but guys mind that much?

i tell u ar, i seriously dun mind...

Bontakun SG

I cannot answer for guys here. I can only answer for myself and myself only:

There is an element of pride and ego at work as to 'prized possession' here with regards to the gal involved. There is also that reminder of 'She has given her treasure to someone else' and it will ALWAYS bite into the mind.

However, as time goes by I have observed the morality of chastity and social beliefs of chastity. It made me more open to the social norms of dating, pre-maritial sex and taboos and stuffs. And really, the issue of who being virgin or not has never really bugged me. Its more of her beliefs, mindset and character that matters more to me than chastity.

I hope I answered your question with my point of view here. Mr. Green

browniebaobao SG

so.. for guys who have such a thinking.. shouldn't they keep their hands off girls too? coz of the girl has lost her virginity to him, the next bf will have the same thinking.

Bontakun SG

Like I said: its my own view. I do not know how each guy will answer to your question because they all react differently even if they have similar thinking towards this.

And in what sense they keep their hands off gals? I don't understand this part.

browniebaobao SG

as in since they mind if their gf is not a virgin liao, then dun go and have sexual intercourse with a virgin gf la.. next time break up le the girl will suffer if the next bf mind. get it?

Bontakun SG

If those guys can SEE this loop, then it be good. There are some guys who never laid a hand on their GFs until after marriage because they respect both their GFs and their own moral beliefs.

However it does not seem so with every guy who falls into this category. They have to battle their common sense, emotional feelings, rational thinking, beliefs and temptations.

It is also the gals' responsibilities to keep their guys in check if they both want to keep their chastities intact until they are married because it is a gift worth waiting to give to the one who deserves it as much as the person who gives it. I am sure if your BF believes in chastity, then you do what you can to uphold his belief in it.

Going into a relationship with someone you really love is never easy. Both parties have the responsibilities towards the relationship.

browniebaobao SG

i know wat u mean.

but somehow many ple just dun get it.

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