Philip Queree, a 37-year-old medical student, was convicted of
indecent assault for his handling of a woman’s breasts during
intercourse – people on the internet had a field day. The
conviction last year was seen as the pinnacle of political
correctness gone mad, and everyone seemed to be having a good scoff
at the idea that grabbing someone’s breasts during sex might be
classed as assault.
But, during this mass furore, the nuances of the case are being
ignored. Mr Queree was not accused of “touching” his accuser’s
breasts, rather, the woman (who remains anonymous) claimed that he
used “excessive force” after she had asked him to stop. During the
trial, she said: “I was in a lot of pain. I felt he had been rough
with me. I had never experienced anything like this in my
life.”
Mr Queree wasn’t accused of causing accidental damage. He was
accused of continuing to cause harm to a sexual partner in the
knowledge she wanted him to stop what he was doing. Of course,
there’s an innate ludicrousness to the idea that touching someone’s
breasts during sex might equate to “indecent assault”, but people
seem to be using this case as an excuse to turn the broadening
conversation about sexual consent into some sort of farce.
No one’s suggesting that grabbing someone’s breasts during sex
is always a predatory move. But so many of us have experienced that
uncomfortable territory, within the context of consensual sex,
where things go further than we’d like, or are rougher than we
enjoy, or start going down a route we haven’t agreed to. And just
because the breasts are considered to be, sexually speaking, “fair
game”, it doesn’t mean we have to put up with people treating them
like play putty.
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