Think My Wife Is Having Affair

last SG · 2011-11-27T19:22:00+00:00

I am of the opinion there is no ’’solution’’ until self-honesty intuits and is communicated or expressed to each other in spite of the fears or ….Otherwise,...

jojobeach SG

This kind of woman, let go of her bah~ you will find a better one in future.

You mean a step mother for his daughter ?

So if he cannot ? Are you going to sleep with him ?

mancha SG

If she is angry or sore at you, she would show it. She is not.

Anger is an emotion. If she has it, then it augurs well for you, as that emotion is only not a desirable one. It would show she has feelings for you, and she is unhappy about some things. But there is none.

But no anger. No emotions, thats bad. Not even regard for you.

When she has no regard for you as a person, her husband, the father of your daughter, then all is lost. It will be a one sided affair on your part.

You can try to win her back, by romancing her again. You have to honestly ask yourself, will it work. Will it hold.

You make a statement of intent first, then act on it. The latter part is the most important, otherwise nothing happens, and you will remain in the confused state.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

You mean a step mother for his daughter ?

So if he cannot ? Are you going to sleep with him ?

So if he can, are you going to be extra?

mancha SG

lols... it takes 2 hands to clap... so i wonder wad did ts do wrong such that his wife had to act like this. While marriage might jus be a paper thing, it is still a commitment. There has been no reason yet for his wife to act the way she is.

Lets try to empathise with him and not ride on his problem nor overly blame him. He needs emotional support and i believe TS is really having a hard time.

Mancha, haven you know that it is a "all guys fault thingy" in the eyes of some ppl. For every single thing that happened, TS is always at fault, filled with guilt, lack of everything a woman needs. But no one has taken a look at what TS really needs. Hopefully u get wad im trying to say.

The relationship has gone beyond the fault finding stage now.

OK so if it is established that the fault lies here and there. Lets take corrective action. Do you think there will be a reversal?

TS is dead to her. She don't give a damn to his feelings.

What TS needs to do is to act, not rehash the scenarios repeatedly.

jojobeach SG

Women are vindictive creatures.

You disrespect them or disregard them, they will one day when you least expect it, do the same to you. Only it will be 10 times more painful.

TS, what have you done in the past ?

Were you caught flirting with your office slut ?

Were you caught ogling at other women in her presence too many times ?

Something tells me you had been a bad boy. Disregarding your wife is a bad bad choice.

jojobeach SG

The relationship has gone beyond the fault finding stage now.

OK so if it is established that the fault lies here and there. Lets take corrective action. Do you think there will be a reversal?

TS is dead to her. She don't give a damn to his feelings.

What TS needs to do is to act, not rehash the scenarios repeatedly.

Had TS been mindful of his wife's feelings ? Maybe not..

So she's doing the same to him now.

Act brashful.. and there be a lifetime of regrets for him, not you.

You sound the horn, he is the one facing the battle.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

some women are naturally born slut.

jojobeach SG

So if he can, are you going to be extra?

He'll have to seek permission from my husband first.

jojobeach SG

some women are naturally born slut.

Really ? So you are saying TS slept with a slut, and married and had a child with one. How insulting.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

I guess your level of understanding is very low. :)

jojobeach SG

I guess your level of understanding is very low. :)

Well, cowardly men talk in a cryptic way.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

I began to wonder if you're a widow. Based on observation, you seems to be online during midnight. If you have a blissful family, you should be sleeping already. Of course you can choose not to say anything, but I hypothesize that your marriage with your husband is a broken one. :) right?

Bio-Hawk SG

You are like any foolish prideful male forumers here. Thinking a few Gucci/LV bags and Jimmy Choo shoes or tours to exotic places are all it takes to make your wife happy. No, women are more complicated than that !

Think about this, if she is truly set on leaving you, she don't need your permission to divorce you. She can go to the lawyer office herself and seek a divorce on her own.

In fact, the sooner she seeks a divorce, the sooner she will be released from it all. Why has she not done it yet ?

In her heart.. she has doubts. Because she know the next ship she jumps onto, may turn out a sinking ship too.

To salvage this ship, you need to be a better man for her. If she sees the change in you and see a future.. she will stay. We all know.. the pasture is not always greener on the other side.

The only way it can be greener.. is when the current one is as lousy as a pig sty.

Think about the issues she had been unhappy with in the past, figure out how to resolve the problems, not sweep it under the carpet.

Show genuine repentence.. there is still hope.

She is punishing you right now. Just stay calm. The more angry and unhappy you are.. the more vengence she feels.

The whole marriage had been all about you.. it's time you let her take the reign.

BULLSHIT!

Do not try to make her happy ,give her space etc.She will be back of course after she had all the fun and one day he will leave her(she's a cheap slut to him for fun now :) She will be back when he leaves her.

Leave that slut with the guy she is with,divorce don't give her a cent, bang some chicks(this will make life more fun and in perspective) then think of future. Don't waste time on that humiliating slut. If you were man enough you would have left her on that day. Seems like being a cuckold is a natural part of u!may be she trained you well to be a sissy. reach your hands down to between your legs,hold your balls.Yes your balls, you are the man. And don't ever listen to woman for relationship advice.

If now you let her have her way, she will file for divorce take the property/money you made working hard when she was fucking than guy. There are many woman in world who will appreciate you mroe than this slut,may be not in SG!

Warning to all guys, don't miss out the pre-nup.

Bio-Hawk SG

I will fill in the details,she is in US.And got married because her playboy husband got her pregnant^^.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

BULLSHIT!

Warning to all guys, don't miss out the pre-nup.

Yea!! That's what a real man should do!!

SG law doesn't honor pre-nup :)

Bio-Hawk SG

Yea!! That's what a real man should do!!

SG law doesn't honor per-nup :)

No pre-nup in SG?No wonder the b1tches there are so spoiled.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

I will fill in the details,she is in US.And got married because her playboy husband got her pregnant^^.

how you know her so well?

Bio-Hawk SG

how you know her so well?

For me to know and you to guess^^

Darkness_hacker99 SG

For me to know and you to guess^^

cool~

that probably explain why she's into this thread

[imdestinyz] SG

The relationship has gone beyond the fault finding stage now.

OK so if it is established that the fault lies here and there. Lets take corrective action. Do you think there will be a reversal?

TS is dead to her. She don't give a damn to his feelings.

What TS needs to do is to act, not rehash the scenarios repeatedly.

yea i totally agree with you. but the point is that while most of us are offering advices to TS and telling him what to act, some others are not. I do not see how this whole issue of TS equates to a total fault of TS as proclaim by the minority. And while us being 'prideful" guys are trying to help TS, I see some "prideful" species of the other sex trying to do otherwise. Neither do i see how in the issue of any r/s problem, the male has to play the bad role. Society has changed, members of the opposite sex can do the bad role also.

As i've said, lots of advice already given, TS just needs to act. But i guess for him, this is 1 big and hard step. Talking is all easier than doing it. I can feel the attachement he has for his wife but not all can.

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